In my family only my elderly father and one orf my cousins and my husband DaveBj (a convert) are Catholic. We live here near many of hubby’s family, and most of the ones we know best are elderly, some of our generation but many in their 80s or above. David’s step-grandmother Granny Denson is now 98. In the last 6 months or so there have been 4 funerals I think. Granny’s son was one of them and we were asked to participate in it, David playing the paino and I singing in the choir.
Now with this age group there are going to be mroe funerals.
The big question is can we continue to participate as we have been doing. We do the same thing annually at Decoration Day, out of respect to family members who have passed. Canwe continue with that? They all know we are Catholics. I owuld think it would be a better thing to continue as we have been doing and not cause offense or criticism about our being Catholic. But I don’t know the rules. Cetainly we never take “communion” at these services. Adn when I sing solos, as i’d done for yearas while out of the Church I choose a hymn that I know is also in our Catholic hymnal and make a remark about being Catholic and that we also sing this hymn at Church. I try to be a good witness as a Catholic Christian.
Need some input from those who are “in the know,” so to speak.
I would certainly hate to stop going to the funerals and David’s musicianship does give glory to God and comfort to the bereaved. And that is a corporal work of mercy. Their differences in various of the Christian beliefs does not change our Catholic Christian beliefs at all.