Someone I know is not free to marry in the Church until annulment(s) are granted. He is curious about how people who are older fce certain legal tax issues. According to him a number of Catholics that he knows simply live together and do not file with the state because they would have to give up too much social security earnings? Does anyone know if it is more or less burdensome for an older couple to be (for the second time) married.
If so he wants to know if it would be acceptable to have a Catholic religious ceremony and not to file with the state? Some have seemed to indicate that this is actually fraud and or sinful. How can I explain this as he wants advice from me.
He is also interested in the possibility of simply living with a woman friend and not being sexually active in order to have what he considers a necessity of a care giver of some sort. I have heard of couples remaining celibate while awaiting anulments because they are already committed, and he was already living with a woman and a priest told him that as long as they were celibate that he could commune (possibly if he were willing to go through an anulment as well). This seemed like a bad idea because of temptation and because he may be just trying to find loop holes instead of accepting the difficulties that the Lord may be calling him to face in other ways, or scandalous or presumptuous on some level. How can I answer these issues? He has only been Catholic a few years. I may direct him to this page so answer honestly but somewhat charitably.