Wouldn’t you say that it is not so much about everyone being buddies and more about spreading the Good News as far and wide as possible.
It does not surprise me that the IRL says this. Many religious Orders talk about the need to get on with the community. In my opinion, the psychology, charism and genuine vocation of the individual is not reliant on what others think of them: psychology is through tests (St. Paul said that a sound mind is important); charism is a gift from the Creator for a particular type of mission; vocation is the kind of life to be lived. St. Peter and St. Paul argued, did they not, so it is not the most important thing, IMO, that everyone shares Cadbury’s Caramels together. In fact, we are taught that a bit of competition is healthy. It does not surprise me that wet-lettuce syndrome is the infliction of the day in western religious thinking. It is that over dependence on temporal needs rather than putting the Spirit first which has inflicted the west leading to a lack of vocations. Why should the salvation of a soul be dependent upon the sensibilities of small-minded men (compared to our Creator)?