[quote="Onedayatatime, post:36, topic:194903"]
I think that Facebook is the wrong instrument to invite people to your wedding. Your marriage is a solemn convenant between you, your wife and in the presence of God. Your friends are being invited to share and witness this important event.
All they have to do is to love and respect you both. This is not a forum for discussion, it is a landmark in your life and a comittment ceremony bar none.
We had some problems at our wedding because of "so called freinds" who were uninvited as a result of some very hurtful behavior. They tried to block the entrance to the church with cars, so my wife could not come in.
Did that hurt on the day. Yes. Did it spoil the day. No. Bottom line, they were not friends in the first place.
There is a little that's more emotional than planning and executing a wedding, but once love and respect are out of the picture (on both sides), it's better to leave them out of this important day.
Please God give you good direction on this one ....
Hi. Thanks for your comments.
Facebook is being used just as email or regular mail or phone calls are used to easier, instant communication with invitees, making important changes to scheduling or general information about the wedding easier to distribute. It is not the means *to the invitation process *per se, which is still being handled traditionally by mail.
My concerns (now settled, thanks to others who have posted their thoughts) were in friends who chatted with others on their misunderstood views of the Church on areas of Facebook of which aren't part of my immediate influence.
Based on your experience, such behaviors are not limited to the online variety. My goal has been for people to realize that, no matter how they communicate, charitable consideration for your friends and their feelings should guide your communication, even if they aren't directly addressing the parties of which are members of that faith.
That might take some time. The results of what I have read of other's discussions about the Church will shape our invites to other events and communication in the future, for I am not fond of friends who aren't honest in their charitableness.