For one thing she seems to contradict herself with this statement (from her book Guilty):
The most worhsipped figure in modern America is the “single mother.”
The most worhsipped figure in modern America is BHO… (or WAS…?)
She goes on to say that liberal politicians like to focus on the issue of single motherhood… the idea that they are victims… something i DO agree with (the focus part).
I don’t like what she goes on to say on this issue of single motherhood.
Example: “There is no better example of phony victims who are actually victimizers than single mothers. We’re not living in Dickensian England, with husbands dropping like flies from cholera, plague [etc] creating blameless single mothers… We have ‘single mothers’ because more than a million women choose to have children out of wedlock every year in America, and do not then wed or give the babies up for adoption. By their own choices, they consign their children to starting life with second-class status.”
I agree with that, except for the 1st line…
She then gives statistics…
This is what i don’t like: "[S]ingle mothers" are women who, by their own volition, have done everything in their power to ruin their children’s lives before they’re even born. It makes no difference if the pregancny was unplanned, unwanted or accidental. And many aren’t any of those. Getting pregnant isn’t like catching the flu. There are volitional acts involved…"
Maybe i don’t even disagree with this because she doesn’t use the word “intentionally” to qualify how women ruin their children’s lives by not marrying. But that’s what she seems to be implying.
She doesn’t seem to take into consideration that not all women are raised in a solidly Christian home, one where moral values are taught (and emotional support/good example provided, etc).
We have had 40 yrs of the “Sexual Revolution” to deal with… People (especially young, naive women) ARE influenced by society’s mores… even when they tend to think they are acting independently, making their own decisions…
No woman deliberately gets pregnant and/or has a child just to mess up his/her life.
I don’t understand why she can’t seem to allow for such things as psychological problems, lack of (true) religion, lack of love (some women have children because they want love, have never really been loved…). Does she ever think of such things? Or is she so seemingly cold and apparetly unfeeling because she’s never really known any poor, single mothers on welfare? or what???
If she had said something about how these psychological kinds of issues can seriously affect and influence a woman (and men also) i wouldn’t now be complaining. But she didn’t…
So i can understand people complaining out her “bedside manner”