Hello all. I wanted to share an online dating experience I just had. Maybe others can relate and give me some feedback, plus I’d like to share to possibly give some insight to others who may be online dating. Anyway, I was talking to this guy on a well known Catholic site and we exchanged a lot of e-mails with each other and got to know one another pretty well - at least as much as you could just through writing. He certainly seemed different than other guys and more religious and family oriented than most. He always told me how much my friendship meant and how special I was to him. We talked on the phone then for long periods and he asked to meet me in person. It was long distance so he had to fly in. We met a few months after we first started talking. Now here I am, thinking this guy could be the one and all excited. Granted I knew I had to meet him, but I’ve read many success stories about people who met long distance and connected right away. So I was hopeful.
He arrives and is so nervous he could barely look at me at dinner. He didn’t give me any compliments or praise and just talked about random things, while hardly making eye contact. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt on the first day, but the next day it didn’t get any better, it just got worse. He seemed disinterested in things we were doing. At mass, he seemed downright uncomfortable and was barely participating. I once asked him if he was having a good time and he said yes, but clearly he wasn’t showing it. I was unfortunately glad to see him go. He definitely didn’t match what he had said to me online. We both knew this hadn’t worked out.
Has anyone else had any disappointments with online dating they want to share? I guess this one was hard for me because he made the trip in but then was sooo different from how he seemed on paper and on the phone. I really got fooled. So please be careful everyone who may be considering a long distance F2F. Not saying it doesn’t work in some cases because I know it does, but often times the distance and being online makes people braver than they are in person. At least that’s my experience! And 2 cents.