I’m sorry I’m not a husband (I’m a wife) but I can’t stand to read anymore about veiling without putting in my 2 cents worth.
Historically, there is NOTHING particularly Catholic about those nylon lace mantillas or little round lace head coverings. At one time, all adult women put something on their heads whenever they left the house. Poor and working women covered their heads outdoors for the same reason men did. They put their shawls over their heads in winter to keep warm. They wore straw hats for shade in summer.
They covered their heads when they went to church, went shopping, socialized (out to tea, works of charity, fancy party like a ball), when they had to conduct business, or go to court. Depending on the culture, Spanish and Italian ladies might wear lace mantillas, African women, colorful head wraps, Dutch or Flemish woman, a white linen cap with lace trim, a Ukraininan or Polish woman, an embroidered kerchief. The point is that a decent woman in her right mind wore what was approprite for her culture, the activity she was engaged in, and her state in life.
St. Paul and the Catholic church never had anything to say about fasion. They did insist that both men and woman show understanding and respect for the Eucharist by the attire proper for the occasion in their culture. In St. Pauls time, a veil was the proper attire for a woman.
If you look at pictures of American Catholic congregations in the 20th century before the mid 60’s, all women and girls past infancy wore hats, wool felt in winter and straw in summer. Women attending synagogs and Christian churches other than Catholic wore the same. Lace chapel veils or mantillas were usually worn by school girls in uniforms for daily Mass. Adult women might keep a kerchief or chapel cap in their purse or coat pocket for visits to church, daily Mass, or attending devotions such as benediction. On Sunday, they and their daughters wore hats.
The sacrifice of the Mass is for all people in all cultures. In America, all these cultures unite at the same parish church. All are expected to arrive with the proper interior disposition but will have diverse ways of dressing as the outward sign. Weaing a nylon mantilla is your sign.
So go ahead and veil if you like and I hope your husband is in sympathy with you.