If there are Catholics who don’t attend Sunday Mass because people hold hands, then they’re probably committing mortal sin as we’re the only little parish in this rural community. The church only holds about 150 people and that’s with every seat taken. That only tends to happen at the Christmas Vigil Mass and Easter Vigil.
However, because we’re small, we know each other and holding hands during the Lord’s Prayer, has never been an issue.
Heaven forbid we celebrate Mass with a community of friends instead of a group of strangers.
So, if they choose not to attend Mass then yes, that is a mortal sin. Completely agree. We also need to be respectful to those, who may have no other choice but to attend a small little parish and maybe do not want to participate in hand holding or raising hands. Many Catholics that can will drive quite a ways to a different parish if there is something happening that makes a person feel uncomfortable at Mass or they feel is an abuse. How hard it is on Sundays for those who can not make a long drive and yet are uncomfortable at Mass.
I am not sure if you mean the hand holding during the Our Father only happens at these times or it is full with every seat taken at these times.??
I am not necessarily saying raising ones hands or holding hands is wrong or an abuse, but just in response to this sentence here, I would rather celebrate Mass correctly and without abuses and with strangers than with friends who abuse the Mass liturgically. After a while, those strangers can become friends and family.
At the moment I am praying the Our Father my focus is on God, not on the person next to me. We have very few people raising and holding hands anymore but if that happened I would politely smile and refuse, as I have seen other polite people do, but usually my eyes are closed and my head bowed as I am in prayer to God.
The couple of times I attended the Mass where everyone ended up in the middle, I didn’t have a choice, the crowd moved at me, which is why I do not attend that Mass.
The people reaching out are not necessarily always kind. I once observed a middle aged man in the pew in front of me hold an elderly woman’s hand so tight she was in pain and when she pulled her hand a way he chuckled at her.
In a different situation I would agree, but at Mass, my focus is to be on God and the sacrifice happening, not on the people around me. The same should be for the people next to me, they should be focusing on God, not me.
So, are you saying I can’t be praying in a community or in union with those around me without holding someone’s hand? We pray as a family all the time and do not hold hands. I grew up praying with my parents and my father leading the prayer and we did not hold hands. I work in a Catholic community and someone leads us in a prayer before meetings and no one holds hands. Does that mean we are not praying in a community or in union with each other??
Were Catholics throughout the ages who did not hold hands, not pray in community when at Mass?
You don’t have to hold hands, and you don’t have to shake hands.
The only person touching my palm during Mass is a capital p Person. If someone wants to get judgmental about it, or take offense where none is intended, that’s on them. I’m not slapping their hand away or scowling at them. Who cares?