If you are not interested in converting and intend to remain Orthodox, I would say marry in the Orthodox church with proper Catholic dispensations for your husband. Then the requirements both churches place on you individually are met.
The problems come in when you look at social factors. Will everyone in attendance be Roman Catholic? Will it cause family problems to have it in the Orthodox church? Is there a reason to cause those problems if you intend to go to the Roman Catholic Church after your marriage? If it will cause family hardships to have an Orthodox wedding, you can keep the wedding small and invite the family to a large reception. You can also look into renewing your vows at a Roman Catholic Mass and inviting the large family to that instead of to the Orthodox wedding. Or you can decide that getting married in the Catholic Church by a Catholic priest is a valid wedding and do that.
You can choose to have a Catholic wedding with or without a nuptial Mass. If you have Mass then as an Orthodox Christian you are allowed to receive Communion together with your husband. If you have an Orthodox Mass with your wedding, he won’t be allowed to receive with you.
Big choices. It boils down to what is important to you. Following your church’s rules, having unity with your spouse at your wedding, having family support, following your convictions and your desires, I hope you find a way to make it all work.