Hon, if you actually research the history of migration from cities to suburbs to cities to suburbs to cities to suburbs (you get my point) you will see that like most things, it’s in waves. The crime areas are in waves. When a poorer population moves to better themselves, the more well-off population usually migrates either to further suburbs or back to cities. In Chicagoland this has been the case. Neighborhoods that were 100% unsafe even five years ago are yuppieville USA today and neighborhoods that were yuppieville are dangerous now and it has been like that for years. Are there some neighborhoods that stay the same? Yes, but don’t blame taxation policies, blame administrators and politicians and beauracrats for their mismanagement. Guess what, many of them, while not admitting to it, want to keep the poor poor but feed them lipservice so as to keep themselves in power. We have many politicians who REFUSE to allow parents to have a choice for their child’s education via vouchers or tax credits. This includes the poorest of the poor, so, because of Teachers Unions fear of competition children ARE left behind and therefore the poorly educated system continues.
There was an article the other day in the Chicago Tribune about Bill Cosby and his talks about parents acting like parents and doing their jobs. Don’t blame crime on the number of children in a family, blame it on lack of parenting, on the monster “me” society that we have made for ourselves, on sin. If your “friend’s” property was damaged then he’s an idiot for not reporting. But to solely blame it on large families living in what you deem small homes because they’re no McMansions, then you my dear do not seem to understand.
You complain that your family’s quality of life decreased as more children were born. If quality of life means you didn’t have all the lattest “things” that you actually had to use your imagination and be creative, you should THANK GOD!!! So many kids don’t know how to do that today, they don’t know how to be bored because their parents are afraid to be “bad” parents. Boredom is a part of life, the sooner children learn that, the better. Not getting everything you want is a part of life, the sooner a child learns that the better.
My younger sister and brother grew up with EVERYTHING given to them (except the true love they needed and deserved) and you know what? they are beyond miserable to be around and forget down time, if they have to actually have down time (a.k.a. boredom) well they become nasty and extremely moody. What kind of quality of life is that? They were deprived of what many children are deprived of today, love, attention, and boredom because they were always on the go with their hockey, horses, music, dance, lacrosse, camps, parties, etc. My dad and step-mom tried to give them everything but forgot about down time to just be with the family without places to go (and imho, that is not a loving thing to do and not meeting a child’s needs).
So, if you want crime and education to be solved, it starts with the family stepping up and the parents acting and being parents (which includes knowing your children’s friends, being involved in their education process, being involved in their lives and actually having family activies and down time away from the rest of the world). Then proceed to those who are in charge and allow parents options to educate their children, make the public school teachers actually feel the heat that they may have to downsize because parents feel they aren’t living up to the parent’s expectations of a proper education of the students.