I’m working on a scrapbook for my DS. Its coming along nicely. I’ve been very careful to leave out sensitive details like breastfeeding, certain newborn pictures with all his ‘stuff’ hanging out, etc.
I’ve decided to make a SEPARATE scrapbook, probably entitled something like ‘Mommy’s Private Album’, where I WILL put all of that very personal stuff. Included in that album I want to put the birth story that describes briefly the pain I went through and the amount of hours I labored.
I actually had my parents’ proofread it for me and my Mom felt that there was nothing wrong with it. My Dad worried that my DS may someday feel quilt over the pain I went through and that that part should be deleted. He backed up his statement with the following and I quote “All women have a painful birthing process.”
Now I have to state that I no longer have a clear head about whether to keep or delete this from my album since my Dad has always been a ‘closet misogynist.’ I say closet because it is not obvious. You have to know him. His relationship with his Mom was strained and unfortunately he has passed it down to his relationship with me. I even told him that I know of women who had an easy birthing process but that did not change his opinion.
I don’t want my DS to have quilt over it. A part of me wants to remember all the details of the birth, not to hold it over DS’ head but I guess because it was such an unique experience. Especially since DS was a late in life child and I probably will not have another, so I want to cherish the story.
Please give my your opinion especially those of you who have grown children or those who have teenage children.