[quote="mamaslo, post:15, topic:273944"]
Wow, how old is your daughter? Mine didn't see or the video until recently and she is 16. You are your daughter's first teacher and you know her better than anyone. I do not recommend it too early. Like my son who is 10, is ready for some things but I am discerning as well, to find the right thing for a young man. He already knows to avert his eyes when the world and Victorias Secret forces it on him. He says "not looking, not looking...". I praise him for that.
Most boys seem to get introduced to the junk that hooks them into sin and addiction from a "harmless" look at something forbidden. I am worried so much for my son. Telling him to take a cold shower isn't enough. He needs to be equipped, and hold all that energy for a one true love. Someone who will cherish him and who he can make sacrifices for...unless he is called to become a priest.
he loves babies, which is so nice to see. His heart melts. So maybe I can use his natural love for Children to teach him. then later more direct formation.
My daughter is outspoken and is trying to balance her attitude with the ones of her peers, and trying to learn to not throw rocks because her chastity is important to herself. Curiosity and zero training from my mom...except for "don't do it until you are married" . She was probably waiting for me to ask her...don't do that. You be proactive, but discern what she is ready for. The public school kids will give her more than enough initiation and she needs to be ready for that too. My daughter tells me what she sees in the hallways, it is just gross. We only have a k-8 catholic school here. It doesn't protect from everything but it is way better even with the problems it does have.
So we are in the same boat, you find a way to teach her before unauthorized visitors do. But as she is ready to protect her own chastity.
You are a good mom.
My dd is 15.5, but is still very innocent. The Catholic schools here are little better than the public schools, and at least at the public my dd won't be confused with mixed messages coming from people who are supposed to be teaching church truths.
Sadly, my dd sees all the twisted things about sex and "health" class seems to emphasize protection from STD's unwanted pregnancies and rape. She sees the culture at large, and it scares her. She is also asked often if her baby brother is her baby, which is doubly insulting. I know at the moment she wishes she could be a consecrated single, but there is a long way to go in her maturity level. I don't want her to think her vocation is to be single because she is scared of a sexual relationship. :(
As for boys, you are right to be concerned. Images of women are every where and it seems to lead many into the world of pornography. Teaching a young man to respect the privacy of a woman even when she does not respect it is very difficult. They need to learn to treasure the female body and hold it to a high regard, and not as a play thing, but society is telling them differently at every turn.
It is not an easy job, but one we have to face head on. I also know that none of my kids will be the same and need the same lessons. I do not anticipate my 14 yo to have as much difficulty with this topic. She is a lot more easy going and doesn't seem to be as deeply wounded when she sins in her classmates (it does bother her, and she has cried at times when friends have done things that were wrong, but just not as often as her older sis.)
Thanks again! Together we can be better parents! :)