Hi, I’m Chloe and it’s my first post here, not about religion stuff but I trust you will give me good advices on something a little bit urgent for me.
I’m 16yo and the next month my parents are going to renew the annual parental control subscription fee. I asked them not to do that, but nope, then I asked for some other one less invasive parental control since with this current one they can see almost everything on my phone and pc (all the messages, emails, apps, broswer history… everything, even my photos and the gps position), still no way, my mom just only answered “I’m entirely sure you need this one”. I cannot install new apps by myself because it’s all blocked, everytime I have to ask them to do that, check the app, if approved unblocking the parental control with their password, install it, reblocking parental control . Everything rated over the “everyone10+” is blocked, they know all of my websites/apps passwords, I’ve zero access to the phone and pc settings and there’s an automatic scheduled screen time up to an hour a day on weekdays (mainly only in the late afternoon) and two hours and half on weekend days, then everything will be blocked for both phone and pc. I asked for more time, like an hour and a half, and my mom think it’s too much …but is it really?
I’ve never been involved in any problem with technology or internet, I’ve nothing to hide, I’m not phone addicted, straight A students, I respect my parents decisions but this time it’s so hard for me. I know I’ve just to obey them but this seems really too restrictive to me, I feel like they are in some way influenced by the disciplining of my younger sisters, like confusing me with my 11 and 12yo sisters and treating all of us in the same way without considering the fact in two years I’ll be an adult (anyway, this is just another big topic). I’m just asking for a step torwards my independence that means a little less parental supervision, or better, a not total parental supervision in everything, but my mom told me she unavoidably needs all this control to ensure everything about me is good, that there’s no way to discipline without supervision, control and proofs, that all of this is just to make the best for me and I should be grateful for their care, if I’ve nothing to hide it shouldn’t be a problem for me …but it makes me feel like a young kid or like the only teen to have all these screen restrictions, feeling like I’ve no space to grow up.
I’m not asking them to have zero control on this stuff but I just believe it’s all too much (or better too few time, freedom of choice and personal space) so I would like once again to talk politely to them once again about this too much limiting parental control, bringing the best valid statements to avoid the new subscription. I feel I’ve only another chance to do that because bringing up an argument too many times would be considered manipulation and disobedience, I would be punished for that probably loosing all the screen time.
Am I wrong? Until what age complete parental control on phone and pc is right? How can I convince them to change opinion about it? Please help me, it will be for another entire year!