I have wrote before about the abuse I suffered as a child and a teenager at the hands of my adoptive father, I am now due to marry (in approx 18mths) with the hope of starting a family (I have some gynae problems - I believe the abuse to be partly to blame!) and we will not be practicing NFP (or ABC) from the get go with the hope of god guiding us to a family of our own or adopting - either way we would definatley like children. My fear is that my mother is unlikely to ever know of the abuse but I do not want to leave my children in their care without my supervision - no overnights, holidays or day visits etc. I realise that my having children is a way of but my h2b and I would definatley like to have a least one child before we are 25 (we are now 20) and I am concerned as to how I will tackle this situation.
I am questioning it today because my mother (jokingly) told me I should have children right now so that she could look after them! My fiance has made his position clear to me and he will not allow our children to be in their care. I don’t want to lul my mum into thinking she will be able to look after my children but I want to avoid rows too!!
Its sort of a catch 22!
Any advice would be welcomed!!!