I repeat and will continue repeating on every thread of this nature: if you are not happy with religious education in your parish, and you refuse to become involved, as a catechist, volunteer, coordinator, member of parish education and formation commission, or some other way, then you have aquiesced in what is going on.
I just got off the phone with an angry parent (not our parishioner, registered her son for confirmation last night about 10 minutes after the 3rd class of the year began because she has an unnamed grievance with her own parish) whose beef is she was not told the requirements for confirmation, my requirements differ from those of the diocese (how she knows that if she has not been told?) and was not told what texts we use, and did not meet her child’s catechist.
No, you did not meet your child’s catechist 5 minutes before class begins, he is busy preparing for and taking care of his class and cannot spend time with you when he owes it to 25 children), no you did not hear the details of the program and view the text because you missed the meeting (which was offered on 4 different days and times to meet the needs of most parents), and no, you cannot barge into the classroom and pin the catechist against the wall while you grill him about your child’s special needs. No, not during class time, before or after, and preferably by appointment.
She was perfectly welcome, I told her, so did the coordinator and the catechist, to sit in the class and observe and he offered to wait and talk with her afterword. She preferred to disrupt the class so I had to leave my meeting with parents from another class to calm her down.
As one of the children observed under her breath: how rude.
yes I will hold the adults to the same standard of behavior and respect I ask of the students.
I doubt very much if this scenario describes OP, his complaint certainly sounds reasonable and there is cause to question how things are run at his parish. But my observation is that most such grievances can be resolved easily some communication. Make an appointment first with the person running the program and then with the pastor, but please do not try to resolve individual issues during class time. We have the needs and expectations of 250 students and 20 catechists to put before your individual questions at that time.