I've only been a mom for 4+ years and have pretty much, since day one, gone to bed consistently with the feeling and somewhat guilt of not being a worthy mother.
I always feel like I could've been more patient, more loving, more giving, more thoughtful, more prayerful etc. I just think that a child's angelic presence reminds us what we were made to be and of our being made children of God.
Personally, I thank God for this eye opener because it humbles me and it makes me want to be a better person.
What throws me off however is hearing almost EVERY other parent constantly saying " I'm doing my best, or, well, I've done my best" every time a problem arises in the family.
I see something really wrong with this picture and I feel our own parents did us a lot of wrong in constantly justifying themselves with this concept It really goes to fuel our mediocrity instead of striving for perfection. It's also a huge way of not owning up to
My question I guess is, do those who say " I did my best" really believe it or is it a conscious way of excusing oneself?.
For instance, parents whose kids have gone astray and say: well, I did my best. I had to work long hours, or away from home to provide tuition funds and clothing and house etc... Do they really believe that that's what parenting means?
Is it ever justifiable for a parent to feed their child this lie?
I don't think we should beat ourselves up for not being perfect but I do think it would do our children a lot more good if they saw us struggling to be so rather than using this blatantly false claim as our excuse