I decided to start a new thread for this next developement.
Firstly, thanks to everyone who posted and gave me such great advice, that is wonderful! It’s great to have such support, even if I’m a newbie here
Thank you all.
So, we had a little talk about this, last night and this morning.
The latest is that, at least she doesn’t think being intimate is wrong and she is willing to engage in it, but basically nothing will change from where we are now.
It’s going to be few and far between and it’s going to be short.
It’s just where we are in life right now, she said.
I honestly cannot expect more from her as a person, I know that she is taking strain as a stay at home mother, and I know that oppurtune times are few and far between.
But that doesn’t really change the fact that I am left more frustrated each day.
I’m sorry if this sounds like a “me, me, me” post, and maybe it is, but it really is exceedingly frustrating.
Just the fact that I look forward to our intimate moments so much, but it’s always so quick and a bit forced too, leaves me yearning, you know?
I know that I am yearning for intimacy with her, to feel united as husband and wife, but it’s getting to the point where I’m having a real struggle with just feeling aroused and frustrated all the time. It’s turning into a physical thing these days.
Maybe it’s nothing to do with her, maybe it’s me being upset that having a child has changed the intimacy between us so dramatically.
This may be very true.
So, I guess I’m asking the question again…is this how married life with a child is going to be for Catholic Men?
Full of yearning and frustration?
I think Catholic men feel this a lot more than any other, since they cannot do anything to relieve the situation, if you know what I mean…
Don’t worry, I’m not about to go off “sinning” here, and I honestly don’t see any way that this will improve…it’s just life.
Does it have to suck like this?
Being a Catholic is difficult! Much more so than any other religion…I know about our rewards waiting in heaven, and honestly, that is what is keeping me going right now…but gosh, some days are bad…I’m actually shaking as I write this.
Well, this post turned into a bit of a rant, I’m sorry
Thanks for listening.