This is excellent advice! Two things that I have learned from priests over the years are to start with mortal sins if you have any to confess. Second is to work to improve by focusing on one (or one category of) venial sin. So instead of mentioning every instance of impatience, bad language, gossiping, etc. Your confession would be foused on bad language say, until you felt you had that habit/temptation in check, and then move to impatience and so on. (This assumes you either don't have mortal sins to confess, or have confessed those first).
I think it is very likely that those taking a very long time in the confessional are experiencing a combination of factors - a long time away from the sacrament, many sins to confess, asking or needing advice, but also a long-winded way of presenting their sins.
I again urge the OP to speak to his priest and ask if additional time for confession can be added to the schedule. He should also either make an appointment for confession, or if possible go to a different church that might have longer hours or more priests hearing confession.
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Below are some useful tips from Jimmy Akin on how to avoid taking too long in the confessional.
I read this a couple of years ago and have since applied it to my own confessions and found it very helpful - not just for confessing more quickly, but for also confessing better.
He is answering a question about a confession which was terminated abruptly before Mass, however the response would also apply to much of the discussion here.
From Confession Validity
Here are some tips for how to avoid this kind of thing in the future:
]Take note of this priest and if the phenomenon repeats with him in the future, go to someone else (if you can).
*]If you need to make a lengthy confession, don’t do it right before Mass. Either show up way early or make a special appointment.
*]To the extent possible, avoid lengthy confessions. There are three ways of doing this, all of which should be pursued simultaneously:*
Sin less often. This, of course, is what you should do. In fact, we are obliged before Christ to cooperate with the Holy Spirit so that, even if we presently have besetting sins, we grow out of them.
Go to confession more frequently. It’s obvious that if you just went recently that you’ll have had less time in which to commit sins and thus are likely to have fewer sins to confess. Further, going to confession frequently is important when you are growing out of a besetting sin. After you’ve committed it, go to confession as quickly as possible to help gain strength to resist the temptation in the future. If you delay going to confession, you may be tempted to commit the sin again on the grounds that your next confession will absolve both instances of the sin.
*Confess in a businesslike manner and omit irrelevant detail. People have a tendency to give way more detail and background than is needed.
While (not being a priest) I don’t hear confessions, I am well acquainted with this phenomenon as it happens every time I’m on the radio show. People don’t just ask their questions, they tell stories about how the questions arose and what their tentative answers are and they include way more detail than I need to help them out. That’s human nature. The same thing, I am sure, happens in confession. Penitents give way more background and detail than is needed.
To avoid this, don’t tell stories or try to explain or justify what happened. Just say "I have to confess one incident of this. I have to confess two incidents of that. I have to confess some thoughts of this nature." If applicable, add any exacerbating or mitigating circumstances that apply (e.g., "I knew full well what I was doing and did it anyway," "I was really tired and angry when I did it"). Proceed through your list in a businesslike manner, without pausing in a way that invites the priest to comment (people feel psychological pressure to speak up when there is an awkward pause). Get the list out and trust that he’ll ask any questions he needs. Save any question syou have for him until after you’ve said the list.
Also, while confessing venial sins is a good thing (if not done to the point of scrupulosity), it is not necessary to confess them and thus don’t do it if you’re confessing right before Mass. It puts more time pressure on the priest and is more likely to rattle him as he worries about Mass and the congregation and how many more people may be behind you in line.
Finally, don’t use confessions immediately before Mass for purposes of seeking spiritual direction, The time pressure on the priest may be too great. Make an appointment or grab a priest after Mass.
The comments on this have gone, but I remember when I first read it that a priest had responded with a big "thankyou!".