I’d like some opinions on this situation: We have five kids (18 months to 8 years) and it’s difficult to have them looked after when we want to have a night out. We have a wedding coming up that is interstate, so to attend we’d have to fly out, stay overnight for two nights and fly back. A friend has agreed to mind the kids for one evening, but can’t do the actual wedding day.
My husband’s parents have changed their plans and are flying back early from a holiday to mind the kids on the second day/night. I was very grateful to them when I found this out, because it would have been much harder if we’d had to find willing minders for each of our kids separately.
Here’s my concern: When this was all arranged, Hubby’s Dad was going to stay overnight at our house and mind the kids. My husband just mentioned in passing the other day that, not only are both of his parents staying (no issue), but they are bringing their friends with them to stay as well, and they are a homosexual couple (female).
I was not consulted about this, although my husband was (he doesn’t see any issue with other people’s life decisions, although he agrees it’s not natural). I feel sort of powerless to do anything, and I wonder if there’s any real reason to do anything. My greatest concern is that I won’t be around to hear what they tell my kids. Hubby’s parents don’t see the problem with homosexuality at all, and firmly believe people are born that way, and his mum has a tendency to talk unrestrainedly, especially when she’s been drinking. They are not totally irresponsible, however, so maybe I’m overreacting. I’ve met the couple in question twice, and they are nice, but I don’t know them very well.
If I say anything, I risk causing major trouble - every time I stand up for my beliefs to the in-laws, the repercussions are large. I usually just keep my mouth shut.
Should I pre-warn the kids? Talk to his parents about acceptable subject matter? What should the sleeping arrangements be? Maybe I should stick my head under a pillow and hope it goes away.