Sort of inspired by the leaving Mass early thread but mostly just coming from experience, why do some people show up so late to Mass that it seems almost pointless?
Now, I understand the kids taking forever to get out of the house, weather (common here), health reasons, etc. but there are others, well actually this one person who always shows up super late, never says ANY of the prayers at Mass, receives Communion, lights a candle, waits till the end of Mass, and then rushes out the door. And this person sits in the pew with such a look of contempt on their face like they are deigning to be there and that it’s such a chore that they would rather not be there. The only reason I know this and know this well is that this person forever chooses to sit next me and invade my personal space when there are plenty of space in the pews in front of me or behind me. This person almost always shows up during the Gospel or Homily and even one occasion showed up during the Creed. Now, we only have one Mass in the morning in Sundays and it hasn’t changed in years (we’re a small parish).
So this person comes up the aisle during the middle of the Gospel, points at the very small space between me and the other person in the pew and then climbs over me to stand in the pew. All I wanted to do was tell this person was to go away because a) they had invaded my personal space (this person was standing very close and I have sensory and personal space issues) and b) why bother showing up when all you do is stand, sit, and say nothing and c)treating the Mass like it was unimportant enough to show up to the whole thing. I held my tongue but my mind was in overdrive. I was very overwhelmed by this (like I said sensory and personal space issues) that I was crying and praying to get over something so stupid that was bothering me so much as someone who couldn’t be bothered to respect my personal space.
And not saying any parts of the Mass, I know it’s not hard. They’re all in English, the Missalette is in the holder on the back of the pew in front of you, and Father tells you where we are. But this person refuses and clamps their mouth shut so as to say nothing. Not even a “Peace be with you” when exchanging the Sign of Peace. And yes, this person can speak, because I heard them speaking to their spouse who came with them, who also said none of the prayers during Mass.
I guess I just don’t understand why someone would come to Mass late, say none of the prayers, receive Communion, go light a candle (there’s a statute of Jesus in the little hallway by the side entrance and the sacristy), and then rush out of Mass at the end.
I understand legitimate reasons for being late just not this person. And rarely do other people come in late. The latest people ever come is during the middle of the entrance song or even during the Gloria but that’s it and they have little kids so it’s understandable.
So why bother showing up late when you can attend another Mass in full at another time?