I am new to the forum…and I really am having a problem. My wife and I have four kids. 14, 12, 26 months, and a new baby girl 2 months old today. She breast feeds our baby now. However, my wife is very afraid of getting pregnant again. Our marriage is challenged, as I am sure you all can understand with 4 kids. But we havent been intimate in any way for over four months. And when our two year old was born, it was 15 months before we were intimate again. And we got pregnant soon thereafter. I must let you know that she breast fed until our son was 13 months old. And we were intimate not long after…and pregnant a month later. So, I can understand her fears. I know a little about the Billings Ovulation Method, but not NFP. Where can I find some info that will set her mind at ease. Her OBGYN told us we couldn’t practice NFP if she was breastfeeding. Is that true?
A little help please.
Also, we are very unsure as to what form our intimacy can take. We want to know what we can do within Cathoic norms. Are we permitted to have oral forms? Or is foreplay objectionable in the eyes of the church? Can we ONLY have foreplay, or must it always lead to intercourse? Must climax and ejaculation always be internal, or can I withdraw? We are very confused and want to do what is right in God’s eyes. But we can’t handle more kids right now. Where can I find out what the Chruch teaches on this subject. My priest unfortunately seems to be willing to bend moral teaching for the sake of saving our marriage from sexual trouble.
Thanks in advance fo your assistance in this most important matter of intimacy.