I have been visiting and next week will be entering as an aspirant in the secular order of discalced carmelites next week. The day I would be welcomed is the day of a family funeral. How does one explain not attending the funeral to the family who is a different faith?
Backround she was 93 and my husbands mother in law by his first (deceased) wife. The only family that will be there is her son, and 3 of her grandchildren. I have not maintained close contact with them after the death of my husband however I did visit/call the woman who passed. The family all excused themselves from attending my husbands funeral (yes I was alone at the funeral except for some church members I had just met). There was not animosity they just had other things to do. I do not harbor ill will but it could be perceived this way especially if they do not understand the vocation I am entering. Yes I would very much like to go but the person directing my formation does not feel it’s in my best interest to attend. Carmel comes first and everything else needs to fit around it. I expect these types of situations will be easier as I draw closer to Him.