I agree with you on mandatory tips. I also do not think tips should be mandatory but then again, waitresses in such restaurants often have to live off of the tips and if they don’t get enough tips in a certain night because they were sick and couldn’t do her duty well she might not get enough money to feed her children for the week. So I guess you could say I am kind of on the fence with this. I think I would be okay with a mandatory tip so long as it was not required to be any certain percentage of the cost of the meal.
That said, I didn’t really think about what you said concerning the pastor and the note. You are right, such things are more likely to drive people away from God than to Him. Therefore I feel that what he did was wrong now. Also, he could always double his tithe for a week if he really felt that God deserves more than the waitress. Finally, when we are kind to others we are being kind to Jesus Christ. See the Bible:
And when the Son of man shall come in his majesty, and all the angels with him, then shall he sit upon the seat of his majesty. And all nations shall be gathered together before him: and he shall separate them one from another, as the shepherd separateth the sheep from the goats: And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on his left. Then shall the king say to them that shall be on his right hand: Come, ye blessed of my Father, possess you the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry, and you gave me to eat: I was thirsty, and you gave me to drink: I was a stranger, and you took me in: Naked, and you covered me: sick, and you visited me: I was in prison, and you came to me. Then shall the just answer him, saying: Lord, when did we see thee hungry and fed thee: thirsty and gave thee drink? Or when did we see thee a stranger and took thee in? Or naked and covered thee? Or when did we see thee sick or in prison and came to thee? And the king answering shall say to them: Amen I say to you, as long as you did it to one of these my least brethren, you did it to me. Then he shall say to them also that shall be on his left hand: Depart from me, you cursed, into everlasting fire, which was prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me not to eat: I was thirsty and you gave me not to drink. I was a stranger and you took me not in: naked and you covered me not: sick and in prison and you did not visit me. Then they also shall answer him, saying: Lord, when did we see thee hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison and did not minister to thee? Then he shall answer them, saying: Amen: I say to you, as long as you did it not to one of these least, neither did you do it to me. And these shall go into everlasting punishment: but the just, into life everlasting.
(Matthew 25:31-46 DRB)