I’m about at the end of my rope right now. I guess I either need to vent or get advice on how to tactfully handle this situation.
Ok, Let me just start by saying that I tend to screen my phone calls through the answering machine because I just don’t have time to get stuck on the phone with somebody. I usually let the machine pick up, and if it’s somebody I want/need to talk to I will call back when I have a quiet moment.
DH’s brother and his wife have an 8 year old boy who is very close to my kids, especially ds. This boy is an only child so he is pretty lonely and wants to be with my kids all. the. time.
They are all getting to the age where they want to talk on the phone. I don’t mind the kids talking on the phone once in awhile. But they have limitations and they’re not just allowed to chat away as they please and they’re not allowed to answer the phone. Well, for most of the summer, my nephew has been calling ALL day long. And I mean ALL day long. He will call and leave a message for ds to call him back. Then he’ll hang up and call back. Hang up and call back. Hang up and call back. This goes on and on and on.
If I happen to answer the phone (which I rarely do for this reason), I’ll answer and say Hello, he says Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello back and forth until I finally figure out who the heck it is and put ds on the phone. I think this is extremely rude and can’t quite figure out why his parents haven’t taught him the proper way to call somebody’s house. The first few times he did this, I thought it was a prank call.
Within the last few weeks, he somehow has gotten my cell phone # and now is calling my cell phone. He’ll go back and forth between calling the house phone and my cell phone. DH and I just got new cell phone service with new #'s so I’m just hoping and praying he doesn’t get my new #. I don’t really know how to tactfully ask his parents to not let him have my new #.
Another problem with all of this is that every time these kids are on the phone together, DS is constantly asking to have my nephew spend the night. He does this right in front of him so I am really put on the spot. I have had my hands full this summer with kids I babysit and there is just no way I was taking on another kid! No Way! I told ds several times not to ask me again in front of him, but he kept doing it. Then he started handing me the phone so that my nephew could ask me! :mad: After he did that several times, I really gave ds a lecture about it and told him he was absolutely NOT to ask me again or hand me the phone again and if he did he was going to be punished. So the next day, I over hear him talking to my nephew on the phone and it sounded to me like he was begging ds to put me on the phone even though ds told him he was not allowed to do that again. But he would NOT let it go. This went on for probably 10 minutes with ds trying to make his cousin understand that he was not allowed to put me on the phone. Then last night, the phone rings and I happened to answer it and it was my nephew asking if he can spend the night. I tried to tactfully explain that I couldn’t have him over last night and he just wouldn’t let it go. He’s persistent.
This goes on EVERY day. It’s gotten to the point where every day this kid is asking to spend the night. I’m tired of being put on the spot. I’m tired of feeling guilty because I can’t/won’t have him over. I’m tired of my phone ringing off the hook. I’m tired of my cell phone ringing off the hook. I don’t know how to tactfully handle this situation. I don’t know what to say to DH without him getting mad and thinking i"m just being a , well, you know what. I really don’t know what needs to be said to BIL and SIL. I don’t know how much they are aware of. I can’t imagine SIL could be aware that he’s doing this. I don’t want them to get the impression that I don’t want this kid around or that I don’t like him. That’s not it at all. I just have my hands full right now and I don’t like feeling pressured into having extra kids over at my house.
Am I being ridiculous? Am I a big meanie for not letting this kid come over whenever he wants? Honestly, a big reason why I am reluctant to have him over is because he is a very, very picky eater. He doesn’t like most of what I make my kids and we just can’t financially afford to buy the type of food to cater to him. So, I either end up spending $$ that we don’t have when he’s coming over or I end up with a hungry kid.
What should I say to DH? What should be said to bil and sil? I don’t want to offend them. But I simply cannot take this anymore.