It’s been a while!
Currently single (not yet ready to mingle) but as I’m enjoying my season of singleness I can’t help but have excitement for my future relationship while hanging out and remaining good friends with many Godly young women. For the past year or so however I’ve been scratching my head at how although some of these girls have great personalities I would not go out of my way and pursue them because I don’t find them physically attractive.
It has happened a few times in the past where I have gotten to know a girl really well intending to remain good friends but she would fall for me so because of this I try to keep a distance to prevent any broken hearts unless I want to pursue. However how frustrating is this, because I feel like if the physical meant nothing I would have dated them all!!!
I know how women are generally more personality oriented than men than looks but as a young Catholic (aspiring) gentleman, how can I reconcile my desire for a physically attractive girlfriend when I know that when (God willing) we grow old together, it doesn’t even matter?
When I am asked what I look for in a girl I sometimes shy away from saying “I have to find her physically attractive” among the obvious Godly/Marian characteristics. But if it is a requirement, is this shallow of me? When with secular’s I’m obviously more comfortable in saying that as I feel like it’s not as accepted among devoted Catholics.
The physical attraction I seek in a girl is definitely not unrealistic but I worry that I’m focusing too much on the physical.
What do you think? Do I sound like a shallow fool?
Share your insight!
A frustrated young Catholic