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With all due respect, I totally see your bosses point of view.
Please don't take offense at the following it is just to show you the other side of the coin. If I was your boss I would be thinking 'She went to all this work to plan a party and now she is not coming! What is up with that?' It does come across as weird. And with all due respect it makes you look bad for several reasons
1-) Did she purposely plan it so she could easily get out of it?
2-) Did she just want to ruin everyone's evening by planning something bad and then not attending
3-) I gave her all this company time to plan a party and now she won't go. Had I know that ahead of time, I would have made her do company work and let someone else plan the party
4-) I need reliable employees. If she can't come through on the more trivial things like office parties, how can I ever trust her with important work responsibilities.
It is a recession out there. Manager's budgets are small. The few employees they can afford need to be the cream of the crop and work well. This does not make you look like a responsible person
Also, I find it odd that your husband knew about this all along. (I am assuming you told him) and now is changing your plans at the last minute. If I was you I would be feelings like my husband was sabotaging my career. I would tell him, 'You knew about this for a while. You can't all of a sudden change the plans and make me look bad at work. If you are that concerned about the wheather, I will take the car with snow tires and you and the kids will have to spend a weekend at home'
Unfortunately, even if you do go to the party, the damage is done with your boss. She will then think you are reliable and wishy washy.
You need to do some soul searching and if this pay check is something you can NOT afford to go without, you need to keep work commitments, even if they are social
This is similar to what I was thinking as well.
You signed up to plan a party, you took on the responsibility. Your family needs to either not go with you to the conference OR make every effort possible to get you to the party if they do go along with you. Unless its a family emergency that would prevent you from attending the party, you signed up for the task, you should see it through to the best of your abilities. A husband suddenly wanting to go along to the conference to see friends, is not a family emergency, its a luxury.