Why can’t husband and kids jump in the car first thing in the morning with you and drive to the event? He can see his friends with the kids while you’re at the event…
You know… this conference that you’re going to over the weekend is work related as well right? It’s actually quite irresponsible of your boss to assume you should stay out late Friday night partying with the company and then getting up early the next morning to make a work conference in dangerous traffic.
I’d go back to your boss and ask her to help you make a decision.
Either go and manage the party and skip the conference.
Or go to the conference the night before… and skip the party that is already planned and ready for everyone.
You could say…: You know, it’s expected to be bad wheather. MY husband thought he’d do the driving, since our circumstances would either prevent me from taking a trustworthy car, or leaving him carless with the kids.
But I realize maybe it’s more important to you that I attend and manage the party and just skip this conference. But I’m sorry, I don’t feel safe driving the one car OR leaving it for my husband to cart my children around in while I’m gone. And if something happened to myself or my family, well, I’d never be able to cope with being pushed into doing something I don’t feel good about.
Here’s the thing. If you were injured driving to the conference, or your family because they were driving the weaker car… you would have NO recourse.
I’m always reminded of a story where a young man consitantly worked extreme hours. Because his boss was “disappointed and demanded” extra work. He worked the hours because he thought he’d get promoted… and if nothing NOT fired. Except he physically couldn’t keep up. His family encouraged him to tell the boss no, he couldn’t cont. to work such hours. But he was “dedicated”… So dedicated that he fell asleep at the wheel on his way home, crashed and died. His family sued the employer. That basically they bullied him into neglecting himself. And they LOST! The judge held that he should have known his own limits and exercised them.
Chances are if he refused to work the hours on grounds of WAY TOO MANY to safely function… and was fired, he could have sued for retaliation… and probably have won… And well, if nothing else be alive.
In the end, your circumstances are why I believe in becoming the employee that they really can’t do without. Really, anyone can be replaced. But I often hear how I’m replaced by AT LEAST 1 and half people when I leave! Or that it’s just “not the same.”