my fiance and i are three months away from marriage and planning the wedding has been anything but the smooth, harmonious experience i hoped it would be.
we’re both 23, so we’re young and want to respect our traditional asian families and get their input about things. i also am one who has a hard time standing my ground so i tend to ask other people what i should do in certain situations. i have done that with my parents while planning the wedding — asking them what they would do, what they would recommend, etc. Problem is I have been listening to them and doing all the things I thought they wanted me to do, yet they continue to get mad at me and change what they want.
my fiance and i wanted a small wedding. but then my dad invited half the country. my fiance wanted to wear traditional asian attire to the wedding. but his dad wants him to wear a suit. fiance and i wanted a certain kind of food at the reception at a certain price. parents insist that we should go with another caterer and that our desired food price per person is “too low.” (hello…we’re 23 years old & don’t want to spend too much of the money we have!)
today my mother even chewed me out and said some very hurtful things (“i wish this whole thing were over … i planned MY wedding by myself without any problems … did you know what you were getting into when you decided to get married!!!”)
i don’t know what to do. but i do know that my parents are DRIVING ME CRAZY!!! i would be grateful for any and all advice, insight, wisdom and prayers. thank you!!!