I am a recently confirmed (this last Easter) Catholic but haven’t become deeply involved in
any one parish. I am in the middle of a web of relationships pertaining to adultery that I
did not until now realize as such. It’s a big mess, and I will be sorely grateful for any
good Catholic advice. Thank You!
- I have been in a “relationship” with a young woman for six months. She is Christian,
not Catholic, and divorced. She had just left some kind of live-in caretaker job due to
sexual advances and was without shelter as far as I knew so I let her stay with me. We
have been living together, and were together physically, and I have confessed it in the
Sacrament of Reconciliation. I had in mind that she might get an annulment and we might be
married. Now I have no reason to think there are grounds for that. I never really did and
I was fooling myself. I see that were both were guilty of adultery and I feel obligated to
urge her to try and reconcile with her husband. Is this right? Is it my duty? I feel
responsible for her safety- physically and spiritually. I think the only right thing for
her is to try and be reconciled to her husband.
- My parents were divorced and my dad remarried a Christian woman and had 2 more
children, now ages 11 & 13. He has expressed vitriolic anti-Christian and anti-Catholic
sentiment for as long as I can remember, but he was baptized in the Episcopal faith as a
boy. For some reason I never realized until now that his remarriage is adultery. Of
course I want to talk to him about his baptism, faith, and his remarriage as adultery but
frankly am terrified to do so. We had home-shaking arguments when I refused to call the
new wife “mom”. I eventually gave in, not knowing any better. Now I refuse. Should I
exhort him on his adulterous and illegitimate marriage? Try to suggest a reconciliation
with mom? It is hard to imagine. If it did, what about the kids? I feel that the
spiritual significance outweighs the physical circumstances of the kids (whether they stay
with dad or their mom), and would be grateful for an affirmation about this.
- Mom started up an adulterous relationship of her own about 8 years ago with a co-worker
and they moved in together. They still live together (in separate rooms), and have
ostensibly ceased from iniquity, but still have what seems to me an unnatural affection for
each other. I just graduated from college, still have an apartment (as far as I know), but
haven’t been able to find a job, haven’t paid the rent this month, may be evicted, and am
in the extremely awkward position of staying here in mom’s house, with the young lady I
still haven’t been able to break off the relationship with, and with mom’s ex-boyfriend-in
-adultery (now sleeping on the sofa in the living room) and his nephew (in his room). My
heart breaks to think of having the adultery conversation with my mom but I know I will do
it soon. It’s an opportunity for me to share about the love of Christ, which I haven’t
done very much with her for some reason. My mom & dad may not even believe in God or the
Church, which may make it hard for them to accept their actions as adultery. I am thinking
about the salvation of my parents, stepmom, stepbrother and sister, and friend. I plan to
testify as boldly as I can. Is it a sin for her to live with the ex-partner-in-adultery
even if now they are “just friends”? Same question for me and my friend? The latter, at
least, seems an obvious example of the ‘near occasion of sin’ to be avoided, not to mention
that she should try to reconcile with her husband. If she refuses do I just sever ties
with her? Is it condoning her past sin for me to stay in my mom’s house? I feel that if I
am silent it is surely a sin.
Thank you in advance for your help!
All things work together for good for those who love God.