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Since the pill has become widely available to everyone, having sex and making babies has become divorced from each other.
Before the pill, everyone understood that sex and babies go together. Before the pill, there was honorable courtship, and then a man and woman had to come before family, friends, and God to declare their love, and to make a life long commitment to each other, before having sex. This made sure that the babies that would come would have both a mother AND a father to raise them. This was God’s design from the beginning.
With the pill and other means of contraception, what has happened is that more people, and at younger ages, have been sexually active. What this has brought to society is…
Not only more people infected with sexually transmitted diseases, but there are now more types of diseases to catch. Those that can be treated with antibiotics are becoming resistant. Many have no cure, AIDS being a terrible scourge. There is also a connection between some STD’s and cancer developing. Why did we need to bring this upon ourselves?
More sexual activity means that there are more ‘oops’ happening, like the young lady forgetting a pill or two at a critical time, or a condom breaking. This has brought a skyrocketing amount of young pregnant teens. This lead of course to the huge demand for abortions to ‘fix the problem’, and millions and millions of babies have never been able to see the light of day. Aborted and discarded. This is not good for women, and certainly murdering babies because of inconvenience is not good for babies!
Those pregnant women who did not have an abortion have been abandoned by their boyfriends who said they loved them. The huge amount of people living in poverty are women with babies with no husband to support them. This is not good for women, or for babies, or for the young men who think sexual activity and it’s consequences don’t have anything to do with them. This is not good for society or the nation that must support this situation.
The pill has permitted sex outside of marriage and infidelity. Promiscuity before marriage and promiscuity after. Without consequences, why not? What has happened to the divorce rate with what the pill offered? We can live together before hand to ‘try it out’ and ‘see if we are compatible’, and yet with these empty promises, we have an over 50% divorce rate. Marriage has been in ruins since the pill has come on the scene. This is not good for men or women, or their children, or the nation.
None of the above mentioned is within the design of God for marriage and family life. If we could wave a magic wand and have everyone follow God’s design, you know what would happen? Teenage pregnancy would disappear and the resulting poverty. STD’s would disappear, including AIDS and some cancers. Who wouldn’t want to see this happen? Yet this is what we enjoyed before the pill became available. The frightening thing about this is that we’ve forgotten how it was, and not that long ago! We’ve forgotten who we are as children of God who can choose to walk in His blessing, and not take on this awful curse upon ourselves and our nation.
This is why I’ve typed all of this. We’ve forgotten how to walk in God’s blessing. You as a young man can choose today to bring blessing upon yourself and your beautiful girlfriend, treat her honorably from this point on, and discern whether you are meant to be married, in a sober and thoughtful way. Men and women cannot think straight when they get the hormones of sex involved and many have gotten married and wondered later What on earth was I thinking? God designed sex to be the super-glue of marriage, and you’ve applied the super-glue before it’s time.
I am grateful for the witness of this couple to you both. It gives you time to pause and think how you will go forward. Begin to pray and ask God to give you the desire to walk in blessing today. God’s blessing can be yours! On your marriage, should that happen in the future, and on your children. Grab a hold of that today! It’s yours for the asking.