Please Help me!!!!!

I’m 19years of age; struggling with this sin of masturbation. I’ve prayed and fasted to the best of my ability…in fact I don’t know what to do again. It’s diminishing my spirituality. I’m almost at the point of expiring; no hope. I’m quite aware that it is a mortal sin, but the pressure is so much that I can’t resist it most of the times. I’m tired of my life; I’m no longer happy with myself since I can’t control myself. I’m now ashamed of confessing the same sin all the time. Please if there is any help/advice, courage you guys can help me with. I’m tired. I don’t have anyone to tell me what to do; no hope.

Keep going to confession. Forget that shame! It is not serving you. It is hindering you. God always DELIGHTS to forgive us. He DELIGHTS when we go to confession with a sincere heart! Just keep going. It really is OK.

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Do not give up. Repent if one falls and seek to make an act of contrition out of love of God above all (perfect contrition) right away -and seek out Confession. A regular confessor can be helpful (and help judge culpability regarding such a struggle).

Let us remember Jesus of Nazareth is The Lamb and the Good Shepherd …

"Jesus is called the Lamb: He is the Lamb who takes away the sin of the world. Someone might think: but how can a lamb, which is so weak, a weak little lamb, how can it take away so many sins, so much wickedness? With Love. With his meekness. Jesus never ceased being a lamb: meek, good, full of love, close to the little ones, close to the poor. He was there, among the people, healing everyone, teaching, praying. Jesus, so weak, like a lamb. However, he had the strength to take all our sins upon himself, all of them.

“But, Father, you don’t know my life: I have a sin that…, I can’t even carry it with a truck…”.

Many times, when we examine our conscience, we find some there that are truly bad! But he carries them. He came for this: to forgive, to make peace in the world, but first in the heart. Perhaps each one of us feels troubled in his heart, perhaps he experiences darkness in his heart, perhaps he feels a little sad over a fault… He has come to take away all of this, He gives us peace, he forgives everything. “Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away sin”: he takes away sin, it’s root and all! This is salvation Jesus brings about by his love and his meekness. And in listening to what John the Baptist says, who bears witness to Jesus as the Saviour, our confidence in Jesus should grow. Many times we trust a doctor: it is good, because the doctor is there to cure us; we trust in a person: brothers and sisters can help us. It is good to have this human trust among ourselves. But we forget about trust in the Lord: this is the key to success in life. Trust in the Lord, let us trust in the Lord! “Lord, look at my life: I’m in the dark, I have this struggle, I have this sin…”; everything we have: “Look at this: I trust in you!”. And this is a risk we must take: to trust in Him, and He never disappoints."

~Pope Francis

"Jesus is the “Good Shepherd” who goes in search of lost sheep, who knows his sheep and lays down his life for them (cf. Mt 18:12-14; Lk 15:4-7; Jn 10:2-4, 11-18). He is the way, the right path that leads us to life (cf. Jn 14:6), the light that illuminates the dark valley and overcomes all our fears (cf. Jn 1:9; 8:12; 9:5; 12:46).

He is the generous host who welcomes us and rescues us from our enemies, preparing for us the table of his body and his blood (cf. Mt 26:26-29; Mk 14:22-25); Lk 22:19-20) and the definitive table of the messianic banquet in Heaven (cf. Lk 14:15ff; Rev 3:20; 19:9). He is the Royal Shepherd, king in docility and in forgiveness, enthroned on the glorious wood of the cross (cf. Jn 3:13-15; 12:32; 17:4-5)."

~Pope Benedict XVI

"I invite all Christians, everywhere, at this very moment, to a renewed personal encounter with Jesus Christ, or at least an openness to letting him encounter them; I ask all of you to do this unfailingly each day. No one should think that this invitation is not meant for him or her, since “no one is excluded from the joy brought by the Lord”.[1] The Lord does not disappoint those who take this risk; whenever we take a step towards Jesus, we come to realize that he is already there, waiting for us with open arms.

Now is the time to say to Jesus: “Lord, I have let myself be deceived; in a thousand ways I have shunned your love, yet here I am once more, to renew my covenant with you. I need you. Save me once again, Lord, take me once more into your redeeming embrace”. How good it feels to come back to him whenever we are lost!

Let me say this once more: God never tires of forgiving us; we are the ones who tire of seeking his mercy.

Christ, who told us to forgive one another “seventy times seven” (Mt 18:22) has given us his example: he has forgiven us seventy times seven. Time and time again he bears us on his shoulders.

No one can strip us of the dignity bestowed upon us by this boundless and unfailing love. With a tenderness which never disappoints, but is always capable of restoring our joy, he makes it possible for us to lift up our heads and to start anew. Let us not flee from the resurrection of Jesus, let us never give up, come what will. May nothing inspire more than his life, which impels us onwards!"
~ Pope Francis**

EVANGELII GAUDIUM,_a_joy_which_is_shared

From my experience, those who struggle with intense guilt, regret and depression when it comes to impure sins like this share one common problem: they don’t know they are loved. People like you, (correct me if I’m wrong), feel incredibly lonely, don’t feel security in intimate relationships where they can just let everything out, perhaps don’t have many friends, have had poor relationships in the past with friends and family and like I said, are not moved by the intense power of love.

Friend, I am here to propose to you that the love which God is offering you right here and right now can and will change your life. You don’t have to feel so lonely and distant from everyone in your life anymore. You don’t have to despair and loathe yourself in bouts of frankly cowardly self-pity. You can have that best friend right beside you who literally is there to support you and hear you out whenever.

Jesus, a real human person, will accompany you in this trial if you let him. He will be your companion, your mentor, your guide and your hero. Don’t feel alone anymore, because you’re not. He’s waiting for you to embrace him, and give you a nice big hug. He’s ok if you cry it all out to him. I know you desperately want this intimacy and help from someone and Jesus is the only one who will satisfy you.

Start with this, just knowing that Jesus, who died on the cross to take on the weight of YOUR sins, truly loves you and wants to go on a beautiful adventure with you just as a companion.

Feel free to message me as well! You’re in my prayers.

The Lord is totally aware of how difficult this is for you. What he wants to do most of all is to keep coming to confession. As the other poster said, too much shame is counter productive. Every time you feel this coming on, ask your Angel to help you. Ask the same of our Holy Mother. Most of all, do not despair. That is what Satan wants the most, for you to despair.

Do you carry a rosary? Grab the rosary when you are tempted.
Praying for you.


In addition to spiritual help, have you considered therapy, or an addiction recovery program?

Please see the following threads for additional insight:
*]List of Catholic Websites for Battling Impurity
*]Specific Questions About an Old Topic: Masturbation

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