my son is suffering from a seriouss addiction to marijuana and also abuses other substances.My mother has had “supervisory custody” over him for many years. I suffer from a serous addiction to cigarettes hand in hand with taking psych meds since I was 21.
I have found a return to strength in and through Jesus. However, I suffer serious physical illness problems and my husband, who had a head injury a year and a half ago, no longer takes the situation seriously/is not able to do so. He brought on a bout of bowel problems through his mischief a week and half ago from which I am now recovering. I go today to follow up on an abnrmal pap smear from last May.
Meanwhile it took two hours yesterday and today to work with myson, he is scattered and confused and at risk of being dismissed from a third school with one quarter remaining in his sernior year. I had to take a meeting about it last week when I was very sick and couldn’t even shower because my husband was hear and I fear him to much to shower when he is in the house.
I want to help my son but have been advised twice that I may need to show “tough love” and file for eviction. As I said, however, he is so fragile, and has suffered so much abuse throughout his life even from me, as I was helpless to control him because of my mother’s lackadaisical “supervision” from 1000 miles away, which undercut my authority. In my frustration over the years I became sicker and sicker, but now I have recouped.
I want to help my son and have some confidence in myself to do so but fear the situation has grown too deep. He has agreed to see a counselor Friday. I am praying to St. Michael Archangel to send his legions of angels to defeat the demons in and around him, and in me as well, that prevent this situation that has developed from coming to resolution and back to sanity. I am also praying to St. Gabriel to get through to him the messages he needs to hear, whether from me or from other sources, as he becomes foully irate and abusive, takes advantage, is difficult and exasperatng, and almost physically threatens me sometimes but I don’t think he would actually do it. He has learned these patterns from his interactions with his father. If only he would turn to me and respect me and understand that I can and want to help him, I feel that, with the Lord’s help and guidance we could get through this. He may end up with a state diploma without affiliation to a school if he does not return to normal attendance to rules and regulations, especially simply attending classes as required. Tthat is what the school specified (the local public high school where he is now enrolled.)
He wants to attend, but it may just be one school too many, as he put in a semester at public school in PA with my parents while he was between private schools.
I trust in God’s Love in this matter as I have seen it bring me back in an unbelievable way. But please, it was through your prayers here that I learned to trust and to pray.
Please pray for my son and for us all (my husband, too, who is seeing numerous girlfriends and seems to be having difficulty working) that this seemingly impossible mess can be cleared up.
Also, my son inadvertently saw his first R-rated movie when he was only 3 years old and continued to watch them and play adult (age 17+) video games from a young age. There was no appropriate discipline or supervision in the home. I’ve been desperate over him and seeking every manner of assistance except the Lord’s since before he was born, so right now I am looking at the positive, the three of us are still alive, have a home to live in, and I have a disability income and my husband has some savings and could apply for disability–and maybe he would even give up his wandering and repent and come home, but that might not e the right thing to pray for as his wildness is a source of the distress.
Please pray for us.