Please pray for me....impossible situation :(


#1

Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

I will briefly tell you my story and where I am up to at this moment. Tomorrow I will be accompanying this year’s RCIA candidates to our Cathedral, where they will meet the Bishop, in preparation for their reception into the Church at the Easter Vigil.

Among these candidates will be my sponsee, my very best friend of many years, who is the Godfather of my daughter and the man whom I hope to marry someday. I live with this man, along with my 10 year old daughter and his three children, who trust me and look on me as mother. Both this man and I are survivors of domestic violence and, as such, our children have suffered greatly. Together, we are safe and happy, and live in a Godly home.

Our Priest knows us both very well and has blessed our relationship and our love for each other. The trouble is, after all the beatings and abuse I took before and after my daughter was born ten years ago, I left my husband, with the little one, and ran away, 250 miles from home, to begin a new life. My daughter is now ten. in 2009 I was received into the Catholic Church, along with my daughter.

Just before our reception into the Church, I received an email, via Facebook, from my ex husband, whom I had really loved. He told me he was dying of cancer of the stomach, and please would I meet him. He was so sorry for all he had done to me, and whilst I had been pregnant, our daughter too. He came down via coach to meet myself and our daughter. He asked me to remarry him, as his dying wish, and so I did. My daughter cried all the way through the ceremony.

Then it became clear, he would come to visit us from his home 250 miles away, that he was ill due to his drug abuse. When I was married to him before, I had abused drugs too, but this was in the 1990’s. He started to be SO cruel in his behaviour again, making me watch porn, and stay up all night with him. Bearing in mind his previous treatment of me, I was afraid to disagree with him. He even kept little one up all night, and she missed school many times. He was SO scathing of my Catholic faith.

I married him in the State Registry Office, in secret, in October 2009, and have since broken ties with him again (he lied to me to get me to marry him) and have asked the court here in the UK to grant an Annulment. This was in July 2010, and he refuses to co-operate now. It looks like I will have to wait until 2014 to be free of him, he is still trying to ruin my life, and my daughter has to have special protection when she is at school.

I ask you to pray for me, dear friends. Must I stay married to a man who has abused and beaten me and who has lied to me? I pray that he will find salvation, and happiness, and a life away from my daughter and myself. God, forgive me my sins, I am truly sorry.


#2

[quote="PrincessViolet, post:1, topic:232284"]
Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

I will briefly tell you my story and where I am up to at this moment. Tomorrow I will be accompanying this year's RCIA candidates to our Cathedral, where they will meet the Bishop, in preparation for their reception into the Church at the Easter Vigil.

Among these candidates will be my sponsee, my very best friend of many years, who is the Godfather of my daughter and the man whom I hope to marry someday. I live with this man, along with my 10 year old daughter and his three children, who trust me and look on me as mother. Both this man and I are survivors of domestic violence and, as such, our children have suffered greatly. Together, we are safe and happy, and live in a Godly home.

Our Priest knows us both very well and has blessed our relationship and our love for each other. The trouble is, after all the beatings and abuse I took before and after my daughter was born ten years ago, I left my husband, with the little one, and ran away, 250 miles from home, to begin a new life. My daughter is now ten. in 2009 I was received into the Catholic Church, along with my daughter.

Just before our reception into the Church, I received an email, via Facebook, from my ex husband, whom I had really loved. He told me he was dying of cancer of the stomach, and please would I meet him. He was so sorry for all he had done to me, and whilst I had been pregnant, our daughter too. He came down via coach to meet myself and our daughter. He asked me to remarry him, as his dying wish, and so I did. My daughter cried all the way through the ceremony.

Then it became clear, he would come to visit us from his home 250 miles away, that he was ill due to his drug abuse. When I was married to him before, I had abused drugs too, but this was in the 1990's. He started to be SO cruel in his behaviour again, making me watch porn, and stay up all night with him. Bearing in mind his previous treatment of me, I was afraid to disagree with him. He even kept little one up all night, and she missed school many times. He was SO scathing of my Catholic faith.

I married him in the State Registry Office, in secret, in October 2009, and have since broken ties with him again (he lied to me to get me to marry him) and have asked the court here in the UK to grant an Annulment. This was in July 2010, and he refuses to co-operate now. It looks like I will have to wait until 2014 to be free of him, he is still trying to ruin my life, and my daughter has to have special protection when she is at school.

I ask you to pray for me, dear friends. Must I stay married to a man who has abused and beaten me and who has lied to me? I pray that he will find salvation, and happiness, and a life away from my daughter and myself. God, forgive me my sins, I am truly sorry.

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#3

Remember, O most loving Virgin Mary,
that never was it known,
that anyone who fled to your protection,
implored your help, or sought your intercession,
was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence,
though burdened by my sins,
I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother.
To you I come, before you I stand,
sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petitions, but in your mercy,
hear and answer me.
Amen.


#4

Praying hard for all of you. Pax Christi.


#5

Hail Mary Conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee

Hail Mary Conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee

Hail Mary Conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee


#6

Hail Mary Conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee

Hail Mary Conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee

Hail Mary Conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee


#7

I don't have any advice for you but I am praying for you. May God bless you and your family, may he change the heart of your husband.


#8

Many prayers for you :frowning: This sounds so difficult…

You have quite a decision, that only you can make.

Your trust must be so ruptured as a result of all that you have endured. How amazing that you have finally met a worthy partner and sponsor.

Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with Thee. Blessed art Thou, amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for our sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

Much Love,
M


#9

Praying for you and your situation.
Lord Jesus, you can see and know all about this situation, we ask for Your will to be done. We trust in your providence, God, and we have faith that Your will be done according your plan in the lives of this family. We give You all the praise and glory through Christ Jesus. :signofcross: Amen


#10

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.


#11

Dear Violet:

I will briefly tell you my story and where I am up to at this moment. Tomorrow I will be accompanying this year's RCIA candidates to our Cathedral, where they will meet the Bishop, in preparation for their reception into the Church at the Easter Vigil.

Among these candidates will be my sponsee, my very best friend of many years, who is the Godfather of my daughter and the man whom I hope to marry someday. I live with this man, along with my 10 year old daughter and his three children, who trust me and look on me as mother. Both this man and I are survivors of domestic violence and, as such, our children have suffered greatly. Together, we are safe and happy, and live in a Godly home.

I am puzzled about your situation. Have you discussed your case with a priest of solid orthodoxy? Not all priests have equal wisdom or background. I personally can't see how it is permitted to live (even chastely) with a man if you are not sacramentally married, especially if you don't share children. Am I misunderstanding something?

I am very sorry to read about your unusually difficult background. I would get in touch with an excellent priest as soon as you can in order to get clarity on all your circumstances and whether you can be free to marry again in the Church. Solid, godly counseling would also be great. I will definitely say some special prayers for you and all your loved ones.

God Bless,
Joan


#12

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.


#13

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.


#14

Praying with you for your situation. :signofcross:


#15

It sounds like he married you under false pretenses - you should discuss this situation with a priest immediately and see about an anullment - and with or without an anullment - we are never asked to stay in a relationship with someone who is abusive.


#16

Dear friends, thank you so very much for all your love and support…sorry I have not been around for a few days but am back now!!! x x x


#17

[quote="Joan1969, post:11, topic:232284"]
Dear Violet:

I will briefly tell you my story and where I am up to at this moment. Tomorrow I will be accompanying this year's RCIA candidates to our Cathedral, where they will meet the Bishop, in preparation for their reception into the Church at the Easter Vigil.

Among these candidates will be my sponsee, my very best friend of many years, who is the Godfather of my daughter and the man whom I hope to marry someday. I live with this man, along with my 10 year old daughter and his three children, who trust me and look on me as mother. Both this man and I are survivors of domestic violence and, as such, our children have suffered greatly. Together, we are safe and happy, and live in a Godly home.

I am puzzled about your situation. Have you discussed your case with a priest of solid orthodoxy? Not all priests have equal wisdom or background. I personally can't see how it is permitted to live (even chastely) with a man if you are not sacramentally married, especially if you don't share children. Am I misunderstanding something?

I am very sorry to read about your unusually difficult background. I would get in touch with an excellent priest as soon as you can in order to get clarity on all your circumstances and whether you can be free to marry again in the Church. Solid, godly counseling would also be great. I will definitely say some special prayers for you and all your loved ones.

God Bless,
Joan

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Thank you Joan, and God bless...I saw my Priest yesterday, he is fully aware of my situation, please pray for me x x x


#18

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.


#19

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.


#20

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.

Hail Mary conceived without sin.
Pray for us who have recourse to thee.


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