I need serious prayers to help me deal with my mom. My daughter is leaving for Europe with her grandfather (my dad) today. They will be gone 4 weeks. My mom is staying home. I went to Europe with my family as a kid -my mom has mental illness and she fights constantly with my dad.
My dad and my daughter went to Europe 4 years ago and again my mom stayed home. I would have never had my daughter go if my mom was going because I would not subject her to the stress of dealing with my mom. And by the time they got back from Europe I was ready I was fried emotionally from dealing with my mom.
Any kind of change pushes my mom over the edge and brings on “episodes”. Last time they went my mom went bonkers pretty much from the ride home from the airport. She rants like a mad woman about how horrible my dad is. Every real or imagined or distorted story from there marriage of over 50 years. (My dad actually bought a second house about 15 or so years ago to get a break from her for a few days at a time)
My dad has let me know she has been wound up for the last week. She has hid it from me so far. We had a discussion a couple years back where I tried to set up some boundaries. Last night on the phone she said she had a story to tell me. I was short on time and said well not right now because I have to go. She said “Oh not right now, after they leave.” I realized after I hung up what she meant. My dad has told me over the last week she has been accusing him of stealing money from her mother. $26,000 to be exact. My mom is 85, her mother died in 1974 -when we lived in another state. She even produced a black bag where she said the money was kept. Which she apparently has kept for 40 years and never said a word about before. And trust me I have heard every story repeated several dozen times each of all the “awful” things my dad has done. And never have I heard this story,
So I’m sure this is the story she is planning on telling me. My mom and I have a history. She has been verbally abusive to me since me teens, I am their only living child, so no I am not cutting her out of my life when she has only a few years left. I need the strength not to react to her, to not let her push my buttons. To basically survive today’s ride home and the next 4 weeks. Because I will have to spend more time with her since she doesn’t drive and I will call to check on her because she is 85 and home alone.
My dad just called and asked me to see if my priest can talk to her because she went absolutely nuts last night. My dad was raised Lutheran, converted for marriage and doesn’t really practice. He is a very good man though. Most men would have left her many years ago. For him to call and ask that I know its really bad. So please, please pray for me. Its going to be a difficult 4 weeks.