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PLEASE pray for me and my husband… He is planning to visit a divorce attorney in the next couple of weeks. It is difficult to explain without making the story long-winded, so I apologize in advance if this goes against the rules of the forum…
We have been happily married for a little over 10 years and were married in the Catholic Church. We have two wonderful boys. Up until a week and a half ago, we were perfectly happy…
I have always been in charge of the finances in our household and have managed to pay bills on time, avoid us from credit card debt, and make ends meet. I am in real estate and have suffered quite a decrease in pay over the past year. Because of that, I have dipped into our savings to pay for household items, etc and to keep us on our normal standard of living. I did not tell my husband I did this, because I kep thinking I was doing what was best for the family and that somehow, it would all work out. I (likemost people) never knew the market or economy would implode the way it did. Anyway, he found out a little over a week ago that our savings is almost completely depleted.
He feels I have lied to him and violated his trust. I agree with him and have apologized a million times in tears over the past week. He says he can no longer trust me, that he’ll never forgive me, and that trying to work things out is not worth it to him. He is willing to split up our family to provide a consequence to my actions. To punish me. We have worked on getting our finances back in order and set up a system where he will have control over the finances and in my spending. He still wants to set up a meeting with a divorce mediator in the next week.
I told him I don’t want a divorce, but he said I don’t have much of a choice. PLEASE help me, my heart is breaking for what this will do to our kids. I don’t know what to do, because I know he is serious. I just don’t understand why he can’t forgive me in the future. I know what I did was wrong, but it was not with bad intentions. I just see this as something we should work together to solve, not split apart.
Please send whatever prayers my way that you can! I am at a complete loss!
Thank you for listening and tolerating my long story!