Please pray for my marriage. I don’t think there are any serious problems yet, but if they are not addressed the small things could cause big problems.
Essentially, my husband is a very good man but he is also a very selfish and stubborn one. He is not Catholic and does not go to church of any kind, though he claims to be Christian. He used to go to mass w/ me when we dated and that was one of the key things that attracted me to him. Once we were married, however, he stopped doing this, and I felt sort of tricked if you will. We have a 6 month old son that my husband is very uninvolved with. It’s like pulling teeth trying to get him to just hold the baby. It makes me sad for my son that his father is so disinterested in him. Things like diaper changes and bottles are out of the question… I understand that it is my job as the house wife to take care of my son, and I do, I just wish my husband was more active in his life, more of a dad. My husband is content to pretend my son doesn’t exist. I worry that because my husband has become so anti-catholic over the last year that he is also a spiritual drain on me and will end up a bad influence to my son. He loves me, but he is very selfish. He doesn’t act like a man who loves his wife. I take care of everything in the house and if I fall behind in the work he complains and doesn’t thank me for what is done. He never says “you are fat”, but he is always telling me that I need to exercise and loose weight ever since I had the baby. It kind of hurts my feelings.
What it boils down to is… I am finding it very hard to remember why I love him. I just don’t feel attracted to him anymore at all emotionally or physically. And because of this I am not enjoying intimacy anymore either… It’s sad because I really want to be in love with him. I don’t believe in divorce and most importantly he is my son’s father.
So please pray for me that I can remember why I fell in love w/ him and that we can respark the passion in our marriage.
I also worry that I am the only one having problems. I think my husband is very happy w/ the marriage and very satisfied. :shrug: