Please pray for my marriage!!


#1

Please pray for my marriage to my wife. For the past several years we've become distant. A very large part is my fault, by the way we have 4 beautiful children (5, 7, 12 and 16) During this time I was self employed and had a hard time making ends meet.. I started getting behind on bills and currently have collections again me. I'm currently paying them off. Basically during this time in our lives I forgot about my wife and I am so deeply sorry for that.

We have gone to a marriage counselor and it seemed to help. One of the things Karen wanted was for me to get a full time job, which I did. The other thing was for me to get help with is my ADHD and speak with a therapist.

I guess as time went on I forgot about it with all the running around, baseball, basketball, boy scouts, cub scouts , camping trips, failing business and tutoring plus all the other stuff life throws at us.

Bottom line I didn't do it!

Then a couple weeks ago we were at a baseball party for my 12 year sons baseball team.

I saw Karen talking to my sons coach and made a comment something like, "thats the happiest I've seen you in a long time, do you like him"

I was jealous that she seemed to be glowing with pure happiness at that point in time and it wasn't me that was making her feel or look that way.

God, I wish I can take back what I said so badly.

She has asked me to move out last week. I didn't realize what a gift I had with my marriage to her. We have 4 beautiful children and they are going through a lot as well. I am committed to making our marriage stronger. I have been going to mass everyday and praying the rosary every day as well (sometime 2 or 3 times a day).

I don't want to lose her.

I love her with all my heart.

I have made an appointment with my family doctor to see an ADHD specialist and possibly a therapist.

Please pray for us and our blessed sacrament of marriage.


#2

Larry, I am praying for you and Karen aand your children, that you will be able to resolve your issues and become a family unit again. I hope that praying the rosary is helping you, I find it very calming.


#3

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen


#4

Praying that your marriage can make it through this rough patch.:gopray2:


#5

Thank you so very much for your prayers.

I pray God will get us through this and make our marriage stronger.

Thank you and God bless.

-Larry


#6

Prayers sent your way!!!


#7

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#8

Praying :gopray:


#9

I pray, I do have at least a long road to show Karen how much I love her.

I feel so badly that I've hurt her so much she wants me to leave.

I'm not faulting Karen in anyway in this.

If only I can show her how much she means to me.

I will show her everyday my lover for her.


#10

[quote="MS_SURVEYOR, post:3, topic:293133"]
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen

[/quote]

Amen.

Mother Mary, please make your intentions in this matter come true. Amen.


#11

Remembering you, Karen, and your children in my daily prayers, Larry. God bless.


#12

Praying for you all.


#13

Thank you so much for all your blessing, they really do mean the world to me.

God bless


#14

I don't think it looks good for our marriage.

I told her yesterday that I deeply loved her and was so sorry for the past 7 years.

In her heart she believes I don't love her, but I do!

These past several years have been hard for me as well.

My business was a flop, got into debt which I'm paying off by the way.

I'm a man that's supposed to take care of his family and I had a hard time doing so.

I'm back at work full time now and able to pay the bills without worry, thanks be to God.

I've been praying the rosary and Memorare prayer and going to the 7AM mass everyday.

I really liked Fathers homily today, he said to be thankful for the friends & family and basically to be content with what you have.

Amen!

Since going to mass everyday and praying the rosary I feel different on the inside.

I can feel the holy sprit in me, I hope this makes sense.

I've been asking the Lord to allow a little bit of love in Karen's heart for me to show her how much she means to me.

I would just love for Karen to love me again.

God, I love her so much!


#15

O St. Rita,
Make us understand that a vocation is not only a matter of attraction.
Enable us to see clearly that it is also a matter of finding, in ordinary events, God's will for us and then accepting it even if it seems to be baffling and contrary to our wishes.
Teach those called to the Sacrament of marriage by the Lord to reflect deeply on the delicate choices that will influence their destiny.
Let them not be deceived by their feelings; instead, let them look for the solid qualities that keep a home united in the joy of the Lord.
Teach unhappy spouses the power of patience and mildness. Let them not give way to discouragement but, like you, let them save both the happiness of their home and the soul of their spouse.
O St. Rita, we pray this Prayer for Troubled Marriage through your name and in the name of our Lord, Jesus Christ.
Amen

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is
the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.


#16

Lord God, I lift up to Your merciful love the marriage of Larry and Karen. Bless them both and touch their hearts so that they may both move towards reconciliation with genuine love and kindness towards one another. Open their minds to Your will and grant them the graces they need in their marriage and in their family. I also humbly ask You to please bless their children who are undoubtedly affected by the conflict between husband and wife. Ease their sufferings and comfort them. I pray that You open Karen's eyes and heart so that she may realize and feel the sincerity of Larry.

All these I ask in the name of Jesus, Your son, through the intercession fo Mama Mary and St. Joseph. Amen.


#17

[quote="larryhoffman, post:14, topic:293133"]
I don't think it looks good for our marriage.

I told her yesterday that I deeply loved her and was so sorry for the past 7 years.

In her heart she believes I don't love her, but I do!

These past several years have been hard for me as well.

My business was a flop, got into debt which I'm paying off by the way.

I'm a man that's supposed to take care of his family and I had a hard time doing so.

I'm back at work full time now and able to pay the bills without worry, thanks be to God.

I've been praying the rosary and Memorare prayer and going to the 7AM mass everyday.

I really liked Fathers homily today, he said to be thankful for the friends & family and basically to be content with what you have.

Amen!

Since going to mass everyday and praying the rosary I feel different on the inside.

I can feel the holy sprit in me, I hope this makes sense.

I've been asking the Lord to allow a little bit of love in Karen's heart for me to show her how much she means to me.

I would just love for Karen to love me again.

God, I love her so much!

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All is possible through Jesus and Mary. My marriage and life is, or was similar to yours. My self employed business has been a bomb. Oh the pressures it put on the marriage! I have found great Joy and Relief praying the Rosary, and a number of other prayers. It took a while but my wife now prays with me at times. Her view of Mary has changed for the good. I'm Catholic, and she's Baptist. The Holy Spirit has led me to a very good job with the state that I start tomorrow. We have ways to go, but our Love is growing with Jesus and Mary in our lives.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen


#18

Praying hard.


#19

My heart aches so bad, I can only image how Karen feels.

Thank you so much for your prayers.

I wish there were a quick fix and now I'm starting to realize it's not going to be.

For many years Karen felt unloved and unappreciated, it wasn't my intention.

With having 4 kids our relationship among other things our love fell by the way side.

I pray to our heavenly father that it's not too late.

MS_SURVEYOR, I'm so happy that you are on the right path of rebuilding your relationship with each other. Praise God!

I only pray that Karen and I can work it out.


#20

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