I am trying to make this short, so if anything doesn’t make sense please just ask and I will give further information.
My son’s college sublets apartments for the students. My son shares an apartment with three other boys.
We and two sets of other parents were shocked the first day of school. The apartment had many things wrong with it, including being dirty, roach droppings, loose carpet, cracks in the wall and other things. We marked all these down on the appropriate forms and were assured that these things would be taken care of.
My son began to tell me small things about one of his roommates that worried me. Let’s call this room mate Ted(not his real name) Josh, my son, is pretty easy going. So, I was surprised when Josh called me to tell me that Ted was spoiled, used to getting his own way and refused to clean up. Another call from Josh mentioned that Ted admitted to doing pot but not to worry, they had all told him that he couldn’t do anything like that around the apartment.
Josh also began to complain that Ted wanted to party all the time and Josh had no desire too. Apparently, unknown to Josh, the other two roommates had complained about Ted to and Ted was told Wednesday of last week that he needed to find a different apartment.
Finally, Josh called me and announced that he had put in for another apartment because he really couldn’t get along with Ted. Good, I though, something about Ted is setting off mother’s alarm bells in my head. But sometimes getting information from an 18 year old boy is like pulling teeth.
Last week, two of the other boys in the apartment told Josh that he never went anywhere so they were taking him out. He went to a night club for the first time and got his hand stamped so he couldn’t drink. One of the room mates could drink but he did it at the club not in the room. The other boy who didn’t drink either drove them home.
They got in very late and it was dark. They went straight to bed.
Early the next morning the student room advisor came into their apartment and found alcohol, which they are not allowed to have.
The three boys, including my son, told her that they had not been home that night. Several people backed them up and said that Ted had a party while they were gone.
Ted, meanwhile could not be found in the room.
All four boys had a hearing with the dean. Ted had his hearing separately from the other three. They were told that they have to get out in five days and that they could not bring up any witnesses on their behalf.
My husband and two other set of parents went to the school. The dean told them that it didn’t matter if the three boys were guilty, unless Ted came forward and admitted his guilt they would all get kicked out of the apartments. The policy, she said, was no alcohol and it didn’t matter if all the parties had knowledge of the alcohol being in the apartment or not.
Ted was asked by one of the parents to own up to the fact that he was the one throwing the party. Ted’s parents have already bought him a new apartment. Ted said, in front of my husband, that he is going to say that he was no where near the apartment but that the other three boys were there the whole time and faked their handstamp. He said, “I don’t have anything to gain by telling the truth and nothing to loose by my actions.”:mad:
All the parents demanded to talk to the president. The president assured the parents that he would look at the case and that he had the power to overturn the decision by the dean. He also asked them not to go to the press, something one set of parents had threatened to do.
Pray that God’s will be done in this case. I am not asking anyone to pray that Josh remains in the apartments because his father and I have decided to leave this in God’s hands. For all we know, God might want Josh away from the school. But if you could pray for him,I believe that it would help.
Also pray for his tourettes. My husband said that Josh looked horrible. My son said that he couldn’t eat and was throwing up. Plus his tourettes, which is usually mild, had become very severe because he was stressed and angry at Ted.