I guess society nowadays is so caught up with being selfish and so focused on fulfilling our own personal needs that we often forget about the concept of sacrificing what we want to do with our lives so as to help others in more need of help then ourselves. And as such, Sacrifice is a concept that’s frowned upon nowadays.
But, you’re definetly doing the right thing and God will bless you abundantly because of this. You’re sacrificing the things you want to do with you’re life so that you’re parents can live better and more comfortably.
Now another question you should be asking yourself (rather then are you doing the right thing imo) is how long are you planning on helping you’re folks? Because if you have dreams/goals that you want to achieve that involve going to school, or going to work, or maybe even someday getting married and having you’re own family, and if these are things you REALLY want to achieve with you’re life…then you may need to consider the possibility of either getting someone to take care of you’re parents for you or putting them in a nursing home. This is assuming that they’re elderly and retired. I don’t know how old you’re parents are. But in any case, if there conditions are severe enough to the point that they can’t function on they’re own and you feel as though you don’t want to be taking care of them until they pass away, then like I said, you may want to consider getting someone else to watch over them for you. But on the other hand, choosing to take care of them until they pass away is also a great thing as well and I know God will bless you abundantly because of this.
Either way, it’s entirely up to you. This is you’re life and so the choices you make with this situation will impact you’re future greatly. Taking care of you’re folks in they’re time of need is never a bad thing. But you may want to consider the fact that when they pass away, you’ll be much older and you’ll have to take care of yourself. You won’t have them to rely on for financial support. And we all know that the older you get…the harder it is to get a job. But vica versa, if you choose to follow your dreams and goals and try to get someone else to watch over them, then you may feel guilty about leaving them hanging when they needed you the most. These are just things you may want to consider before making a final decision in regards to how long you want to keep up with this. Talk to them as well and see how they feel about this. And above all…pray that the Lord will guide you to make the best decision for everyone.
I had a situation similiar to this where my father retired from the Air Force and he was unemployed for a few months. So he was depending on my check to help him, myself, and my siblings live. Now at the time my wife (who was then my girlfriend) and I were getting very serious in our relationship and were looking into getting engaged and married one day. Not to mention, she lived in a pretty bad neighborhood with her mother and brother both of whom were always giving her a hard time and always getting on her nerves about petty things. In any case, we knew we needed money for the goals her and I had in mind. Not just for the wedding, but also to move out into you’re own place and all that jazz. So I was trying to save up my money for the both of us. But, I knew my Father needed my help. And so I went ahead and gave him my entire check until he got a job about 3 months after he retired. At that time, I felt that I could go back to focusing on saving up my funds so that me and my girl could get engaged, pay off our wedding, move into our own place, and start our own family. Which has always been my dream ever since I was a kid. But…my Dad was still telling me that he needed my help financially.
Looking at the issue in the long run, I knew that my dad had a lot of financial problems. He had a ton of loans and bills that he had to pay off, we were living in a big house of which the mortgage was pretty high, and a bunch of other things. And so looking at all that…from my perspective…I knew that if I were to stick around and help my Dad financially…that I would probably have been stuck in that house helping him for years. Because that’s how long it would’ve taken for him to pay off all those debts. And…I didn’t want to wait x amount of years to start my own independent life. My girl and I wanted to get married, we wanted have kids, we wanted to live together, and if I were to give all that money I wanted to save for us on my Dad…God knows how long I would’ve been stuck there. Plus I felt as though with both the money he was making at his new job in addition to the retirement check he was getting from the military, I felt that should’ve sufficed to cover the bills he had. So I told my Dad about that and of course we had our altercations on the issue. But things ended up working out. My Dad ended up selling the house, all my siblings moved out and began they’re independent lives, my Dad moved down to Florida (where things are a lot cheaper) and is actually about to get married next month. MY wife and I got married, we moved into our own place, and now my wife is about to give birth to our second child.
So ultimatly, the choice is yours. Just do what you feel in you’re heart of hearts is right and everything will be ok.