Is it just mine, or do other women’s husbands and families also get really obnoxious a few days a month?
My husband is a great guy, but he does some things that I find annoying. Normally I just ignore these things, but when my hormones align in a certain way, I explode. I discoved this pattern years ago, and knowing it helped me deal better. Best thing for it has probably been years of pregnancy and breastfeeding ammenorrhea.
While I still breastfeed our toddler, my cycle has now returned and so did a PMS fight recently. That was followed by a day in tears over some stupid things the kids did–that they always do. As my cycle isn’t entirely back to normal, I wasn’t prepared for these emotions. Honestly, after an extended time away from my cycle, these sudden mood swings from hormone shifts feel like a bad roller coaster ride.
Part of my issue is the fights and tears aren’t about “nothing”–they are about things that bother me that I just usually don’t mention to the offenders. From my husband’s perspective, this may seem like it hits from out of nowhere, but many of these issues have been building for a long time. Some of these topics cause heated debates at other times too because we don’t see eye to eye on everything. But I don’t like those heated debates so other times I rarely feel the overwhelming urge to address those issues.
While the arguments and tears are not helpful, I suspect that PMS raises issues to my attention that probably need to be discussed or addressed in more constructive ways. Recently my husband handed me a stack of financial papers that required my signature. That prompted tears and an argument, which prompted us to set up a long overdue appointment with our financial advisor.
Anyway, I am curious about how other women deal with PMS and their husbands and families. Are arguments common, or is it just us?