[quote="Steven_Carnell, post:13, topic:273514"]
I am a new Catholic still going through catechism class. I have always agreed with contraception because it prevents so many situations that have negative results for the child.
I am studying this issue to understand why the Catholic Church has this teaching. So far I understand that the whole issue revolves around people interfering with the natural God ordained order of procreation.
Now I can accept that reasoning because I don't think we should take any decision away from God that he has clearly said is his. We rebel when we do. **But, what happens to those poor innocents when they are born to parents, or a mother, incapable of looking after them and loving them?
Or from a poor country where there isn't the infrastructure and resources to care properly for adults let alone children?
They die or suffer horribly in competing for whatever food, etc., is available.**
No easy answer, but God Bless Charities that try to address this issue. Bringing children into the world is a tremendous responsibility, and very few of us think or plan adequately for the responsibility of parenthood. Good on those that do! I know my wife and I did plan.
Contraception would not be necessary in the world that God wanted. Abstinence and obedience is the best contraception, but our poor human selves like to repeat what feels good. Modern people don't even see why they should control themselves, and don't want to.
Sex is too pleasant. God sets a high standard and the only way we can reach it is through Jesus Christ, who strengthens us. It is possible to never use contraception.
Given our world and the fact that few even want to control themselves, an argument can be made for contraception but only in the negative sense of avoiding a worse situation. It is certainly not Godly, but it may stop suffering. So there is some justification, but no necessity if people abstain and obey God.
Well, all people experience suffering in some form during their lives. It's better to be born and to experience life and go through suffering (and at least have a shot a better life)... than to never have life at all. I just caught that Oprah special last night about Hassidic Jews in New York. And the one family had 9 children, with another one on the way, and the parents were probably a lot better parents because they didn't watch tv and ignore their kids. In fact, their kids actually enjoyed helping them prepare dinner... and they spent every evening having fun as a family (rather than everyone going to their own room with either a tv or computer screen).
The point isn't that everyone should have big families. The point is, the "world that God wanted" is not Heaven. It is not unattainable. We have no place making that call, "oh the world isn't good enough, I will choose when I want to have a kid". The harsh reality of it all is that when most people in society do this (as most people in the U.S. and Europe do...) it leads to demographic decay. The entire society ages to the point where schools have to be progessively closed, and there just aren't any children anymore. Apparently, in Europe if you go around there's practically no children. They make up less than 20%, 15% or even 10% of the population.
Anyways, the long and short of it is over the past 100 years people have slowly rejected more and more Church teaching. Definitely accelerated since the 50's. Anyways... just because most people live a radically way than what the Church envisions... and how people ALWAYS used to live, doesn't mean the Church changes its teachings. It holds truths which are immaterial.
We sadly might have to come to grips that, perhaps 90-95% of people won't live according to these teachings. [This is akin to the practicing Catholics in France... but it's also akin to the Christians back in Ancient Rome]. If Americans want to live a decadent lifestyle... that truly is their loss.
And yes, we can't make people be good parents. But that just emphasizes how morally bankrupt the secular lifestyle is. Secular people are unable to be good parents, unable to have enough children to replace the number adults... so it's unsustainable. Decadent morals leads to a decadent society. More people care about selfishness and sins, and not raising a family, and keeping a wholesome home. Society collapses...
This is how flawed this situation is depicted statistically:
These are called "age pyramids" ... well, one of them looks like a pyramid, the other one doesn't. Western Europe's population will continue to dwindle and dwindle and dwindle if they don't have children.
I'm not saying everyone needs to have 6 children. But, it is truly unhealthy when almost everyone has only 1 or 2 children, and sometimes 0. The very first commandment is to reproduce... not to mention that love is greater if you want to "have someone's babies", as opposed to having sterile, fruitless sex with them for your whole relationship... more and more ppl do this.