I praise God that He has decided to include you in His family!!! You are not called to fight against your selfishness unless God has placed His call into your heart. I pray that you will come to understand that blessing, and that He is calling you out of this darkness so that you can truely LIVE the life He has intended for you.God will not fail if you use your freewill to follow His call. Step 1 is already at work.
Jesus gives us clear instruction on how to rid ourselves of sin. I refer to the process as RADICAL AMPUTATION. If your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out, for it is better to be blind than to be thrown into hell with your sight. Step 2 is one that really gets alot of guys into trouble because we justify all manner of reasons to not participate in it or participate only in part. Both of which will lead to failure. REMOVE ALL ACESS TO PORNOGRAPHY FROM YOUR LIFE! I did it by placing effective filters on every computer to which I had access, the blocking codes MUST be held by someone else, burn all magazines ( this step was actually strengthening), destroy all videos. Radical amputation.
Confess to a trusted friend free of this sin. Step 3 is also tough, pride tells us not to, afraid of what they may think.( choose this person wisley and with prayer).
Grace is as powerful as we allow it to be. Confession and the eucharist were given to us as flowing rivers of grace. I applaud you and encourage you to continue to participate. CONTRITION was the problem for me. Although pornography made me feel guilt and held me in bondage, deeply I really desired it and only when I allowed myself to see THAT truth, did I begin to move towards a true loathing of that desire in me. Contrition is a DETESTING of a sin AND a resolution not to participate. Without those 2 working together the full measure of the much needed grace in these sacraments are not given to us who need them so. Many of us must be broken down by God to a place of REAL suffering to truely learn to detest our sin. Pray that His mercy will be given to you in this manner.
Step 4.Realize that you cannot resist temptation. God cleary calls us to RESIST satan, toe to toe mental brawling. Satan works in our minds and convinces us that we are unworthy of love; that we cannot win; look at how many times you have fallen; just look at bikini models–no porn; you deserve a bit of pleasure; LIES LIES LIES FROM THE FATHER OF LIES. FIGHT with prayer. Outloud right then.PRAY PRAY PRAY.
God clearly calls us to FLEE temptation. You cannot resist temptation any more than a hungry child can resist food. Do not try. FLEE!
Develop tender devotion to Mary. A greater intercessor we do not have.
Strive for a spirit of generous self denial. Do some real penance not only the 3 Hail Mary’s priests so often give. Ask for more significant penance. Teaching ourselves self denial is a extremely useful habit when combating sins of the flesh.
Lastly, be patient with yourself. Disappointment in ourselves is the easiest and widest avenue we take to our next failure.
I now imagine myself as a miserable sinner,on my knees,humbled before my KING and miraculously made whole IN Him. My humility before God is my strength. Allowed to, HE will do great things for you!
I have prayed for your liberation.