I consider myself a very devout Catholic, but struggle with the question of contraception.
I am the mother of four grown children and Nana to three beautiful grandchildren. My two married children use artificial contraception. My oldest daughter has two children. They lost their home last year and moved in with us. They were not using any contraception and though they wanted another child she never did conceive. A week after they moved into our house she became pregnant.
She had the baby four months ago and we basically are supporting them. Her husband works and she stays home with the children. We don’t mind helping them out at all and it is a real blessing to have them here, but she could not emotionally handle another child right now - her baby is sick and difficult and she barely has time to care for the two she has now. So, if a person really cannot physically, emotionally and financially afford more children why is is morally wrong to avoid having more children?
The other issue is my other daughter. She is in a marriage that is not blessed nor recognized as valid by the church. Her husband is a divorcee and he is also not Catholic. They too use birth control because they definitely cannot afford another child, nor do they have space in their one bedroom shack for another person.
The marital bed serves two purposes - unitive and procreative. I had a hysterectomy and cannot ever conceive another child - should my husband and I stop having relations because we cannot fulfill the “procreative” aspect of our relationship??
I hate to support something that the Church considers “intrinsically evil” but I can see the compelling reasons why my daughters would choose this option.