My wife is on the downhill slide in her fourth pregnancy. All four have been difficult with one ending in miscarriage, one requiring treatment for dangerous clotting antibodies she tested positive for, one requiring brief hospitalization for the halting of pre-term labor, and the current one requiring five weeks and counting of hospitalization and all sorts of drugs. At one point, she almost was even over medicated to the point of requiring a ventilator!
All this has left my wife and I very sour on the idea of anymore children. I hate to see her in any sort of pain and this last pregnancy is just too much. She’s demanding either she or I get sterilized. I’ve tried to talk her out of it and explained Church teaching. We did actually attempt NFP and made it work for a while but, well, here comes baby #3. She’s demanding that either I agree to get a vasectomy or she will request tubal ligation at the end of her pregnancy.
I can’t tell you I don’t halfway agree with her even though I know it’s a mortal sin. Furthermore, it just seems to bleepin easy to get it done and then go to confession. I certainly would be truly sorry for getting it done but that still just seems like a cop-out to me. I am a fairly recent convert (as is my wife) and am, in all modesty, kinda feel like I am being groomed for further ministry in my parish. I certainly want to do whatever I can for my parish. But I feel I won’t have a leg to stand on teaching others about the faith if I don’t do my best to adhere to it.