Pray for me...for I have become lost

Please help me God!!

My marriage is on the brink of failure, my Father died 2 months ago, my Mother needs me, my wife is full of demanding negative energy, I have turned to alcohol and porn and my daughter is a fragile emotional person that needs me as well.

I try so hard, but there is no pleasing my wife, I seriously beleive that she has fallen out of love with me, my Daugher is an angel who is doing so great, but her emotional needs are so great that its seems impossible to meet them.

I need to help my Mom and spend some time with her, but that time spent is hard on my wife who tends to spin everything towards the negative and I cannot possibly twist myself in the knots it requires to comminicate with her so she dosent think the worst possible is happening.

Work is going well, but its very demanding that I perform and by the time I get home, I just need to unwind, but I cannot, there is no comfort for me. so alvohol eases the pain, porn fullfilles desires my wife will not.

I feel so bad that I am displeasing God, I am hurting him with my failure, but I dont know what else to do. I terribly miss my Father and the comfort and strength that he gave me in life, but he is gone. Taken from me in my most needed time.

Please someone help me, I need you God. Please help me, I dont want to become an alcoholic and I dont want to lose my family and i have no where else to turn.

I need you God, please help me…I need some strength, I need some relief, I need something to believe in that wont go away, I need a path that will lead me to out of the forest and I cannot find it.

I hate drinking, I hate looking at porn, but it feels good and nothing else in life does right now…please help me stop, I really, really want to stop. I know its wrong, but all seems lost and what else is there?

Please help me…someone help me…I have no one to talk to in life, no one to turn too, only my faith and it seems like I am not dedicated enougth for my faith to help.

I am so lost…

And no help seems to be in sight…so alone…so alone…God where are you?

Jesus please help our brother to find the wisdom and support he needs to live wholesomely instead of finding solutions that only cause further spiralling of his state and situation.
Please console him and his mother in their loss of their loved father and husband,
and help his wife to find healthy ways to heal her depression and anxiety, and to become more thoughtful and loving regarding the needs of others in the family.
Angels and Saints of heaven please intercede for and protect this family.

Father give strength and healing to Your troubled and sad son.
Mother Mary please pray for him and his family

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Our Father Who Art in Heaven
Hallowed be Thy Name
Thy Kingdom Come
Thy Will Be Done
On Earth as it is in Heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us
And lead us not into temptation
But deliver us from evil
Amen
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I will pray for you, especially for the temptation to drink.
I was an alcoholic for 10 years - of sheer hell.
Lord, lead your son to find all his needs in You.
Lord, hear our prayer

I will pray for you brother. I actually cried reading this because Im also trying hard to stop exactly some of the things you are doing.

Ive not lost my parents yet, but I had always thought what would happen if I did lose my dad, and that time is closer as he’s already passed 70 and he tells me he’s looking forward to meeting God…he’s really a pious sort.

My wife is also quite demanding already (ive got two teenaged kids who need me emotionally as well) and I really pray that I myself don’t teeter in your kind of hell. Believe me, I am with you also in your time of this great sheer difficulty.

Let me end this by saying there are many people who have lost their arms and legs either in war, birth, accidents, gangrene, and what not. Try to resolve your addictions by realizing that you have MORE than many people so stop abusing what you already have. I am trying very hard myself and it’s a very hard, extreme torture. :frowning:

Lastly contact your local Priest immediately, go for confession, and hopefully through God’s grace you can get this out of your system. God will always forgive a repentant sinner remember that.

Godbless you and rest assured I will storm Heaven for you :slight_smile:

MJ

I will pray for you. But you also must pray. I would suggest praying outside the home, and I would strongly recommend praying in a church building, particularly a Eucharistic adoration chapel if there is one within reasonable distance. You cannot deal with this without God, and I think you are well aware of your weakness, otherwise you would not have asked for prayer. God is also aware of your weakness and wants to help you, But even if all of this seems impossible, a quickly worded “Help me Jesus,” can be a sufficient prayer in a tough place. If you are of the state of mind and have the opportunity to pray outside the home, then do so. I have dealt with bouts of depression and temptation and completely understand how helpless you can feel sometimes, but the truth is that you are not helpless and you are certainly not so weak that you cannot cry out for help. Furthermore, the sacraments are given to us by God for a specific reason, and they are ways in which God chooses to minister to us in this life. How long has it been since you’ve gone to Confession? If you are struggling with pornography or other sexual temptations, make it a point to go to Confession every week in which you fall into the sin. That’s what the sacrament is for! There is such a grace that is given to us by God in the Sacrament of Penance that I have experienced time and time again, such a weight lifted from your soul, and more so if you have not been to Confession for a long time. Can you go to daily Mass? Some parishes even have a midweek Wednesday or other day Mass in the evening. If you want Jesus to help you, then wouldn’t it make sense to go to Jesus? If you were hungry you would go to the grocery store or a restaurant. If your life needs fixing, you go to a Church, and you connect with the Person Who wants to fix you. Depression can often magnify your troubles to the point that everything looks so much worse than it actually is, but just as in any dark night there is a bright and shining sun waiting to burst upon the horizon any moment. Your depression is really not at all as big and bad a wolf as it seems.

Also, if you find that you cannot find the words to pray, then pray the Rosary. If you do not know how to pray the Rosary, try clicking here. Print it out and take it with you. If you do not own a Rosary, you have ten fingers and that will more than suffice until you are able to find one. \

The Church is not a museum for saints, it is a hospital for sinners, and there is so much wealth available to you in these things alone–the Sacramant of Penance, the Mass, the Rosary–a true feast for your soul, and if you are starving on the inside this is certainly a good place to start. The important thing is to start. I will be praying for you every day, dear brother.

Our Father who art in Heaven
Hallowed be thy name
Thy Kingdom come, thy will be done
On earth as it is in Heaven

Give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us

Lead us not into temptation
and deliver us from evil.

Amen.

Glory be to the Father, to the Son and to the Holy Spirit. As it was in the beginning, is now and forever shall be. World without end. Amen

Praying that you meet with a good, holy priest for confession and spiritual direction. May you let the sacrament of reconciliation heal and strengthen you, and let the priest help you. May you turn to reading the Scriptures and EWTN instead of looking at bad images and drinking. May you cling to Jesus like a Rock and center your life on Him. May you quit your bad habits so you can properly attend to the needs of your daughter. May the Lord help your wife to work on whatever is bothering her in her relationship with you, and grant her all the graces she needs to be faithful to you. Amen. Sorry for the loss of your dear father. May his soul be at rest in God’s embrace. Amen.

Praying that you make a good confession and that the Lord Jesus Christ will bring peace to you and your family.

Our Father, Who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy Name,
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us,
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen

Praying that you will go and receive the sacrament of reconciliation to remove your past sins and start fresh and also praying that your marriage situation improves while your mother and daughter needs are met …

Praying for God to send relief and healing into your life.
Praying for you wife and daughter as well.

Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
Amen

Thank you everyone, I am inspired by the response I have gotten so far.

I drank the last alcohol in my house 4 hours ago and I really am going to try and not get any more tomorrow.

I have kept away from the websites that no one needs to be looking at this entire day since I saw the posts of people praying for me.

None of this is easy for me, but I don’t want to let you people down.

I have to say that I am feeling very scared about going to confession, I do have a regular church that I should attend more regularly and the Father of the Church does know who I am, so it seems really embarrassing to tell of the things I have done.

I am not sure how to overcome this fear and do what needs to be done…But I am trying real hard to walk away from the porn and alcohol at this point.

Thank you all, you people are Gods mercy.

St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in the hour of battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God restrain him, we humbly pray and do thou O Prince of the Heavenly Host
by the power of God, cast into hell Satan and all the other evil spirits
who roam through the world seeking the ruin of souls.

Amen.

Mother Mary, please take this man’s struggles to your Son. Ask Him to grant Scorpiuscat the graces he needs to resist temptation, and to be holy in the midst of trials. Mother, please comfort Scorpiuscat and be with him now and when he needs guidance.

Angels of God, in Jesus’ name, be always with Scorpiuscat, to light and guard, to rule and guide.

Scorpiuscat, as far as I’m aware, priests are instructed to do everything they can not to recognise the person in the confessional, and if they do, they are required to forget what was said as best they can. I trust that God helps them in that endeavour, so that it is easier for we sinners to make use of such a great blessing as this sacrament. The graces you receive from confession will help you in your struggle. I will admit, though, that in the past I have gone to a church somewhere else to confess just so that the local priest doesn’t hear my horrible, repetitive sins.

Amen.

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

O Christ Jesus
When all is darkness
And we feel our weakness and helplessness,
Give us the sense of Your Presence,
Your Love and Your Strength.
Help us to have perfect trust
In Your protecting love
And strengthening power,
So that nothing may frighten or worry us,
For, living close to You,
We shall see Your Hand,
Your Purpose, Your Will through all things.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thine intercession was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my mother; to thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me.

Amen.

Praying for your intentions….

Lord Jesus, You have said,
“Learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart.”
With confidence in Your loving heart
which offers rest to weary souls,
we come to You in this time of special need.
In Your unfailing love,
read the prayer that is written on our hearts,
and grant the grace that we ask of You,
in accordance with Your holy will.
In Your name we pray.
Amen.

Your situation sounds very familiar to me, my friend. I have had many of the same struggles. All I can say is that the advice you are getting here is solid and true. I returned to Confession and daily mass and was freed of a 14 year porn addiction. I am not saying all of my issues are gone, but the change that HAS occured is miraculous–I never thought I could put that into my past. I pry for the Holy Spirit to replace the spirit of Lust with his life giving grace and awesome power!! God Bless!!!

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

Doing a chaplet of Divine mercy for you.

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