Pray for porn stars

I honestly don’t see why it would matter. I don’t think appearing in porn films would affect somebody’s ability to be a kindergarten teacher. Where I could see it being a problem would be somebody teaching older kids who would quite possibly, thanks to the internet, find out that their teacher had appeared in porn films and find them and watch them. It would probably be somewhat difficult to maintain their professional status if their students had seen them in porn. But at kindergarten level the kids are not going to know or understand this.

I certainly can’t easily get inside the mindset of somebody who would think that this is a good choice in life. I don’t think it’s something I’d want my family and friends to know that I was doing. Whether it’s actually mentally abnormal, I wouldn’t know.

Well, what’s “normal?” Whatever everyone else does? I don’t know if I agree or disagree; I just think that lots of people, whether through lack of a moral compass, lack of shame, or anything else, would happily perform in porn if offered enough money. Heck, I think a lot of people would do an awful lot of bad things if offered enough money. Does that make them mentally defective? I don’t know, but I doubt it, any more than it’s defective any time someone makes awful moral choices.

To be clear, I didn’t mean mentally abnormal the way that, like, schizophrenia is mentally abnormal. I don’t think people who do porn are “crazy” in that sense. I mean that if you dig beneath the surface I suspect a lot of them (not literally all, perhaps, but a disproportionate amount) probably came from environments where they didn’t have healthy relationships with men. There’s probably a disproportionate number who came from chaotic families of origin (single mom, rotating cast of loser boyfriends, etc.) I’m not saying they’re “crazy”; I’m saying negative influences in their past might lead them down this path as adults.

For example, I remember seeing a study that a disproportionate number (again, not literally 100%) of women who worked as strippers had been sexually molested when they were younger, or just lacked a father figure. Maybe it’s not dispositive, but it seems likely that it factors in.

And I should make it clear that I’m very much a layman when it comes to psychology so I’m just repeating things I’ve read in passing.

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There is nothing wrong with judging their actions harshly, of course the action of porn needs to be judged that way, it destroys lives in every way. I speak of not TREATING them harshly, as in degrading them and scorning them with anger. There was a time in my life when I didn’t think porn was wrong, let’s say from age 13 to about 40 something. It was because I did not know Christ then, my understanding of porn was blinded and distorted. I can tell you with all certainty that if anyone would have treated me harshly and scolded me with anger I would have rebelled even more. We must offer Christ to those caught up in the world of porn, not build a wall that shuts them out.

One more way to explain my thoughts. After my conversion I caught myself unintentionally feeling holier than thou. I looked down on others living in sin. Then after feeding an entire homeless camp for 2 years I had a different point of view. I could have scolded and treated the drug addicts and prostitutes of that camp harshly, but with the love of Christ in my heart I put my arms around them and saw through the hateful things Satan had done to them by traping them or lurering them in by promises of pleasure. I earned their respect and they trusted me, every one of them opened up to me and poured their hearts out to me about what went wrong in their life. I then saw each and everyone of them as a 5 year old innocent child, as they were before Satan did any damage.

So yes, I will tell a porn star she is beautiful, I will put a blanket around her, I will hold open a door for her, I will treat her with the same sweetness and gentleness as I would my mother, my wife, and Blessed Mary. I will not give her a lecture, shun her, tell her she is a tramp etc. Jesus could have thrown the first stone at the woman who committed adultery, but you see, He didnt, instead He offered her another chance and never degraded her by lashing out at her for her previous actions.

That’s why I hate porn, and Satan, but yet I can find a way to love those caught up in it. Christ is their ONLY way out, and if they can’t get out, He is still the ONLY light they will ever see. May God give us the wisdom, the courage, and the love line to rescue as many as we can.

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