Recently I married my best friend and things are wonderful. Now a little background information we waited until are wedding night and did very little if anything that is against the churches teaching. We planned to then and are currently practicing NFP for a variety of reasons but especially it is the churches teaching.
As I am sure a lot of people here have family and friends that don’t agree with these views and although they not hold it against you they not participate themselves.
Here is where we need guidance. One of our friend whom became married just a month after us we just found out was 3 months pregnant at our wedding and four months at her own(we did not know at the time). If any of our friends were going to abide by the churches teaching it would have been this person. To give a little credit to them we never discussed it but I can get in to the details on why we felt this so strongly. When so many people don’t use the churches teaching and someone you know you would bet money does, only to find out we were wrong hurts. We found strength through our engagement thinking we know someone struggle with them temptations as us only to find out it was a lie.
The main problem that we are having is it almost cheapens our view of the teaching and makes us feel like we were the ones that did wrong. We feel like our trust was broken not only with this person but also the church. We were talking as we prayed last night and it is almost as our value was cheapened. Next time we have a friend that we believe is living by the church who knows what we will think.