Prayer for healing after abuse

I came out of a bad relationship. I’m ashamed how long I allowed this to drag on & let him hurt me. He’d yell at me, had a bad temper, was disrespectful & rude to me/my family/friends, no one liked him, was negative, unhappy, & dissatisfied with life at all times, used me & pushed me away until he needed me again for his selfish needs, neglected me, & abandoned me. 2 months ago, I confronted him about it all & he owned up to everything, apologized, told me he’d do better & asked me if there was anything he could do to fix things & gain my trust back after he’d severely broken it. I’m ashamed to say I gave him the chance. I told him my needs & the actions he could take to fix things. I am embarrassed that I allowed him to do this to me for so long & I am beating myself up emotionally bc I allowed him to hurt me by giving him too many chances when he was so undeserving. He was uneasy about my asks to regain trust. He stopped reaching out for 6 weeks after he’d gotten his favors & the NIGHT BEFORE my med school entrance exam (which I failed bc my head was spinning from this), he sent me a text saying that he wanted me to put all his stuff in a box to pick up. The relationship was nearly 4 yrs long, & instead of coming to me & telling me “I am so sorry, I know I hurt you & I owned up/admitted to every way I mistreated you & asked you what to do to fix this, but what you’re asking of me is too much for me & I’m not capable of it. I’m sorry I can’t do it. I wish you the very best and I thank you for the times we had, & again I’m so sorry”, he decided to end it in the most cowardly way. It shattered my heart. He came the next day to pick up his things & brought his mother. Thankfully, my sister is a firm woman, & she was able to help me confront them. It didn’t go well, the mother sent her son to the car bc they are a family scared of confrontation & tried to trespass and yank the box away & run away. My sister blocked her & defended me, allowing me to say what I needed to say at least to his mother. I pray for my own healing & peace bc this season of my life is so difficult, and on top of it, my mother’s emotional state is not the best so she can’t fully be there for me & I need to take care of her too. Please pray for me, my family, & his family. They are not religious, they suffer from all 7 deadly sins & I fear deeply for their souls. I pray that they find healing & true happiness, which can only be found in the church. This man has issues with both of his parents, & his family life is not a selfless and loving one. I pray for him & the family, bc with this kind of parental guidance, teaching him not to be a man & face his damages, & instead run from confrontation; he won’t grow. He’ll continue to be a child trapped in a man’s body, learn that he can step all over people & run away from the damages he’s caused, & he’ll continue filling that God shaped hole with deadly sin and worldly pleasure. I feel so sorry for all of them, & I am ashamed & disappointed in myself for not knowing my worth as a daughter of God, the King. Please pray for my healing & peace, for the conversion of him & his family, & for his growth in whatever way God grows him.

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Aww, dear one. I hear the pain in your words, and I remember all the threads that you asked for prayers. I firmly believe that this breakup is God’s answer to your prayers.

Move forward, do not look back, and do not contact this man ever again. He has shown he is incapable of caring and compassion. He ended things in a most cowardly way because that’s what he is, a weak, selfish boy who needed his mommy to rescue him. Thank God that you did not marry him, and move forward with the knowledge you have gained.

As before, I will keep you in prayer.

Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless, and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us, and increase your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments, we might not despair nor become despondent,
but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your holy will,
which is love and Mercy itself.
Amen.

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Thank you so much. I joined Catholic answers praying for him and his family. I truly do hope that they all make it to heaven. I see how empty their life is without Jesus and the church, and no matter how much success, money, and opportunities they have, it won’t change the fact that their souls are dying. I am in so much pain. It is 5am where I’m at. I spent the night at a dear friend’s home, and in the middle of the night, she snuck out of the room we were sleeping in to go back to her own bed which she prefers, but is too small for the both of us. So I’m here, in a home that’s not my own, alone, away from my mother who has been sleeping with me for the past two months because we have each other’s backs, anxious because I don’t do well sleeping alone at other’s homes, crying, writing, praying, and begging for prayers because these past 3 days have been absolute torture. I feel as though I’ve been hit by a truck. And I have to retake that test too… I’m in need of so much prayer right now and you were the first person to ever pray for me here on Catholic answers. I remember you asking for prayers for your son, and I will h be sure to keep you and your whole family in my prayers. I know I am under spiritual attack but I will continue to choose Jesus, no matter what is thrown my way. I just need some prayers to help me get through all of this madness, so I cannot thank you enough for coming to my aid yet again.

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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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Nonetheless, I can’t thank God enough for His protection and intervention because you are right, thank God I did not marry this man. God is so good, and He is holding me tight, I can feel Him. I hope that one day they get to feel Him too. I feel bad for this man because he has to heal without God which will be a long and painful road, but I pray that he finds Christ and the church along his journey at one point or another. I pray they all do. May our blessed Mother guide the way for them. Thank you, God, a thousand times over because even though I couldn’t see my worth, You could. I know you’ll send me the right person in Your own perfect timing and I need only to shut my eyes, hold onto Your stable and loving hand, and trust. I need to pray for that patience and trust. And thank God for my sister. She’s not even my real sister, I was not blessed with siblings because my father robbed me and my mother of that (she still grieves severely about that to this day because she feels so deeply for me in that tremendously lacking area), but God has blessed me with people who are close to me, and this beautiful girl who I’ve known since birth (our mothers grew up together) is such a gift because her strength helped me stand up to these toxic people. She didn’t let them just take advantage and run away, she put them on the spot for a bit, made them uncomfortable, pulled out “mama bear” and protected me. I can’t thank God enough for the people He has placed in my life to get me through this.

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Praying for you and your intentions :pray:

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We all live and learn. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s easy for someone on the outside to see what is really happening easier than the one on the inside. You’ve been spared life with him so learn from it move on and find a good man who truly loves you and wants what is best for you and shares the Faith. God Bless and again don’t beat yourself up, you are not alone in this.

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

Prayer for a Miracle

God of all creation, you who spoke a simple command and brought forth light from
the darkness, I ask you now to send forth your miracle-working power to heal (frankiejen. You cleansed the lepers, opened the eyes of the blind and by
speaking a simple command, you empowered the crippled to rise up and walk.
You sent forth your life-giving power to all those in need, including those you raised from
the dead. I ask you to send forth your healing power into frankiejen’s body and give him the strength to fight his illness. I ask this through my Lord, Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen

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LORD Jesus please heal your daughter .

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You are in my prayers. Please don’t be embarrassed, ashamed or beat yourself up anymore… It sounds like he was abusive and you are going to be okay. I know your heart hurts, but you are much better off and need time to heal and take care of yourself.

Praying for you.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.

Amen.

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless, and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us, and increase your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments, we might not despair nor become despondent,
but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your holy will,
which is love and Mercy itself.
Amen.

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Thank you so much for all of your prayers. I am finding peace and healing through prayer and leaning on those around me who love me and pray with/for me. Looking back, while it was painful, I am thankful to God for the way that this man ended things. I am thankful for the fact that him and his mother handled this situation in the worse possible way, with complete and utter heartlessness, fear of confrontation, lack of maturity, and lack of care for anyone else’s feelings involved but their own, because if there was any doubt I had that these people were not good people and that it truly is their loss to lose me, the Lord thoroughly washed it away by having them show their true colors. Even then, God was only taking care of me. He knew that my heart needed it to end this way so that I would be left with absolutely no doubts and nothing to feel that I lost. God is so good. He was protecting me through the whole thing and I find comfort in looking back now and seeing the Lord’s hand in that.

At one point his mother (while she was teaching him to be afraid of confrontation, and to do his damage, hurt good people and just run away) wished me happiness because she said I “really am sweet.” And she’s right, they saw nothing but kindness, pure love and generosity from me, but my family and my friends cannot say the same about this guy. They did not experience only goodness from him. He was good sometimes in a way that I was too desperate for and attached to, and a monster the other half, who wasn’t afraid to yell at or disrespect those I love, throw a tantrum, be cold and short in a manipulative and controlling manner, and blame me for it all in a narcissistic fashion. Thank goodness my sister is not afraid of those who try to take advantage of and intimidate kind people, and she had no problem asserting authority, being firm and standing up for someone she loves that was deeply abused. Her strength is a gift from God and I am so thankful she was there. The whole time I had the Lord, mama Mary, and an army of angels and Saints defending me and I didn’t even know it, but it is so sweet to see that now.

Thank you for all of your prayers and your advice. While I am still working through it, I believe I am healing, and in large part that is thanks to everyone’s prayers and support. I am finding peace in moving forward with the knowledge I have gained, knowing that God has a beautiful plan for my life, and that God is loving but He is also just.

Thank you again to my Catholic Answers community for all the love, advice, prayers and support.

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@frankiejen, I am so happy to hear everything that you have written. This guy provided you with a great lesson for your life and hopefully, you will use that lesson to choose someone worthy of your good and kind ways next time. I firmly believe that you will heal quickly from this as you realized it was not a good fit, and because you are under the wings of God’s protection. I wish you nothing but the best going forward. :slightly_smiling_face:

Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless, and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us, and increase your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments, we might not despair nor become despondent,
but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your holy will,
which is love and Mercy itself.
Amen…

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Thank you so much for your kind words, multitude of prayers, and support. It’s all been very helpful through this difficult time

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Keeping you in my prayers Frankiejen.

Blessed Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful-
Mother and love the weary, abused, neglected,
broken or forgotten among us-
Give your aid to all needing help or healing-
Assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering-
Be with those needing peace-
Console the lonely or brokenhearted-
Comfort the lost, hopeless or fearful-
Guard the unborn-
Pray for those who are dying or who have died-
Touch those who do not yet see truth or have hardened hearts-
Help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go-
Show us the way to do the right thing-
Protect those who are in danger, and
Guide us from every evil.
May all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.

Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.

Amen.

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