First, I’d like to welcome you home and wish you the best on your journey! I will be praying for you!
It wasn’t too long ago that I was in a similar situation – trying to “find” my mate (I’ve been married for a bit under a year). I read your subject line and it drew me in because much heartache has been had by many people over this issue, including myself, and I wanted to share some inspired advise.
I’m not saying that you haven’t already done this or that this is the correct or only way to go, but for the sake of being thorough: First, I would suggest aquiring knowledge on what the Catholic Church teaches on vocations and marriage. Second, I would try and learn about what the church teaches on family, marriage, courtship, and dating. One great document that my wife and I found very enlightening can be found here: ewtn.com/library/MARRIAGE/CANA4EVE.TXT
It is a lengthy document, but well worth it.
Now, God knows and understand your desires, wants, and needs (which I’m sure you know), and knows what is best for you and in what order and magnitude certain events occur in your life for the proper formation of your heart, mind, and soul, as well as those that you interact with. I have found that the most peace and harmony in life has come from aligning my desires with God’s desires for me. Psalm 37:4 expresses this point quite well, “Find your delight in the LORD who will give you your heart’s desire.” For the longest time my “delight” was to be with someone in marriage and my energies were focused on finding this someone – instead of discovering more about my Savior and God. God gave me a few heartaches before I finally caught on to what He was showing me. I used to pray for my heart and His heart to beat as one…and I was so adamant and serious about it, and I believed it with all of my heart! And believe me, you’ll know when they are beating together! I finally understood that He --desired-- me to find my delight in Him! Once I did that, all of my worries about finding a spouse seemed to dissappear and my spirituality and relationship with Our Lord blossomed SO MUCH!! I was at the point where I was happy and content with being single for the rest of my life if that is what God deemed best for me, Him, and His kingdom. It wasn’t too long after that that God introduced me to my soulmate – and we’ve experienced growth in all the little knooks and crannies that neither of us ever knew existed!
That’s just my experience…
Having said that, I am 100% positive that God will answer all of your prayers about marriage and your future spouse no matter how you word them. Just be sure to be honest and genuine in your prayers and to be open to what God is trying to show you, because it may not be what you expect. The novena to St. Therese of Lisieux, as was suggested earlier, is a powerful one and I’m confident you will be blessed by her intercession. I know my wife prays with St. Monica from time to time, who is the patron saint of married women. After a little research I have discovered that St. John Francis Regis is the patron saint of marriage. I’m sure all of them will help you along your way.
Again, I wish you the best on your journey!