Prayer Request (False Claim of Child Abuse)


#1

Hi everyone,

I have a prayer request to make. My parents took in my sister’s children who have severe emotional problems (a condition called RAD). One of the children is especially bad and will do things like deposit feces in the tub or damage things (furniture/her siblings/herself). She is eight years old. We’ve been able to make tremendous strides with her, she used to just scream, she can now talk and read (although she won’t demonstrate this if you’re around).

The school; however, has been no help and is now bringing child abuse charges against us. What for? Well for things like not going to school with a coat on. Her coat hangs on her bed and she knows it’s cold outside, but refuses to put it on, instead of telling her we let her go out in the (mildly) cold weather in the hopes she will see the reason behind wearing a coat. This is neglect.

She used to be self destructive (picking at scabs/bruises to make them worse). We started ‘cleaning’ them so they wouldn’t ‘get infected’…with alcohol. This stopped her from continuing to harm herself, because the alcohol hurt. This is abuse.

It’s things like this, we are doing things to help her grow, and the school has determined that we are abusing her. They’ve now called social services and if anyone has any idea what they are like, you’ll know it’s three months of pop visits and harassment, even if there is nothing abusive in the household.

Anyway, I’m asking for prayers. I’m not sure what would be best, we are worn thin and are beginning to think foster care might be better for our sanity. Could you please pray that whatever is best for this child is what happens, and if that best should be remaining with us, that we will be given the strength to make it through these rough times ahead.


#2

Praying for you and your family!

Jim


False Claim of Child Abuse - RAD
#3

Do the teachers know your situation? Do they know that you are caring for a child with a history of abuse? Have they met with you?

A teacher simply observing this girl may be inclined to think that you are causing it and not repairing it.

I would call a good lawyer or other legal advisor, call for a meeting with the teachers, social workers and all others involved and make a statement so everyone is on the same page.

This is just one accusation. If your school cannot get on board and be supportive, you are just going to hit a wall over and over again with these people.


False Claim of Child Abuse - RAD
#4

I am SO sorry this is happening to you! You are definitely in my prayers !:slight_smile:

My younger sister (2nd of 6…I am the oldest) had RAD and it was a nightmare living with her, esp. her influence on the younger ones. From years and years of therapy she was able to overcome (is that the correct way of saying it?) her RAD, but has been diagnosed as bi-polar now and still has her problems, but she’s much better and living on her own, slowly making her way back to the faith again.

While my family never had problems with teachers (her behavior inside our home never effected her outside-of-home behavior), we did have a social worker actually threaten to call childrens’ services on my parents for abuse, and then this past summer our own relatives did call childrens’ services on my parents for abuse. It was humiliating for my parents, but the case worker quickly saw the allegations were false. I hope the teachers’ eyes are opened. Unfortunately, many, many people are not aware of RAD and many more don’t believe it’s really an actual disorder. Even more, children who have RAD are manipulative and if you haven’t experienced manipulation, it’s much harder to detect it. But hopefully this won’t be the case. God bless you and your family!


False Claim of Child Abuse - RAD
#5

We did speak to her teacher at the beginning of this year and she seemed to be on board with us. We’re not sure if her teacher no longer agrees with us or if the report is from the office (school nurse/etc). We’ve been told very little at this point and are praying that it won’t escallate.

When I was growing up my little sister would do stuff like this even to the point of SAYING that my mom was abusing her. Of course everything she said was the absolute truth (kids don’t lie after all :rolleyes:) so we were visited by the social workers about once a month for a year. It was horrible and the thought of going through the harassment again is chilling.


#6

Thank you for your prayers and understanding. As much as I wish no one had to go through this nightmare, it’s still nice to know you aren’t alone. :o

I’ll keep your sister and family in my prayers as well.


#7

Thank you :slight_smile:


#8

Hi,i’m sorry that all of this is happening to you folks.All i can think of right now,is that Jesus was treated badly too,some where i’ve heard that we would be treated the same in his name .Does that make sense?I’m not so good at remembering verses.Prayers on the way upward for you all.freshwater


#9

I’ve moved your thread to the Prayer Intentions forum and ask all future responses to be in line with the nature of this forum.

I’ve also copied it to the Family Life forum, which you can go to here, where advice and discussion on the topic can continue.


#10

I will pray that the truth of this situation will come to light.


#11

I’ll be praying for you all.amen:signofcross:


#12

O God, we humbly beseech you through your servant, Saint Dymphna, who sealed with her blood the love she bore you, to grant relief to those who suffer from mental afflictions and nervous disorders, especially these little children. Sain Dymphna, helper of the mentally afflicted, pray for these children. I pray this in the name of Jesus Christ. AMEN


#13

I am praying for you. I worked with parents referred by social services for many years and can only say that the truth will come out in the wash. In the end, they really don’t want or need to take care of children who are loved and well cared for, but must investigate, anyway. I understand the fear and frustration, and my prayers are directed towards God sustaining you as you wait. It is awful, indeed.


#14

God only gives us what we can handle, although we don’t see this at the time, stay strong, and an answer will come praying for you all :gopray2:


#15

J†M†J
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.


#16

Prayers are on there way!


#17

I have placed your petitions within my heart and will carry them with me to Mass and I will remember your petitions in my daily prayers.
:signofcross: :gopray2:


#18

Praying for you.


#19

Praying hard for you and your family.


#20

Hail Mary…


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