Prayers and Advice


#1

I need some prayers in respect to my marriage. We have been married 10 years, and have three wonderful children. We’ve gotten through tough times including caring for two of the above mentioned children who have chronic and severe medical diseases. My daughter, 7, had 2 liver transplants and my son -4- is a kidney patient.

My husband is of the Baptist faith and while we were dating it didn’t bother me. Over the years, he stopped going to his church, and started displaying very anticatholic attitudes. He actually once told me he “hated” Catholics. I know that’s not true - all three of our children are baptized Catholics as he upheld his vows to raise them Catholic. At the same time as he appeared to drift away from God, I’ve drifted closer to HIm. I’ve realized that a happy life is impossible without God.

Over the last year we have had many issues - him and pornography, him “getting back in touch with an old highschool friend” after 20 years. He has respected my wishes and stopped communicating with her after she enticed him over to her house so she could talk to him about her crazy horrible boyfriend.

The issues now adays are just his general disposition with me. Most of the time he’s distant and rude. He is nice on occasion and I cherish those moments. But he’s so angry. I’ve mentioned to him to go back to church (his church - I don’t even want to begin pushing Catholic church on him - I just want him to get to church.) He says things like “well I’m going to hell anyway…”

I don’t know what to do. his anger is spreading through the family. I don’t want the kids to live that way. Life is so peaceful when we embrace God. I want our kids and him to feel that beautiful peace only God can bring.

I do pray for him. I know part of our mission on earth as wivers (or husbands) is to help our partner get to Heaven… but he’s making it so hard.

Thanks for your prayers and help :slight_smile: :angel1:


#2

Have you tried to get him to attend Mass with you and the kids?

It kink of sounds like he has a Calvinist belief and that since he is involved in porn that he most be predestined for hell. Well Catholics do not believe in such nonsense.

I would encourage him to attend church with you for the sake of the kids. The statistics show that children of men that don’t attend church are much more like to fall away from the faith. I would gently point out to him that he needs to at least somewhat support you by attending church (and so they don’t fall away like him).

Second I would pray a rosary and read the bible every night before bed. Try signing up for a holy hour of adoration. Ask him to watch the kids so you can do this (and thank when he does).

Once he breaks his porn habit and turns back to God, you will start to see your loving husband return to you.

God Bless you, your husband and your family.


#3

Thanks for the advice. I’ll try and see what he says. He used to be irritated with me just for attending daily Mass. I’m not sure he thinks he’s going to hell for the porn. He insists there’s nothing wrong with it.


#4

Jengl,
There are some things we just can’t do much about ourselves. Keep reading 1 Peter 3:1-6. A really helpful book is “Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. Sorry, but I do not have many practical suggestions. If you’d like to, you can send me a message. I will pray too.

Ruby


#5

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